"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Alcohol brings out the beta in me

PackDaddy

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I have realized alcohol's inhibiting effects strip my mind of the rational alpha principles that drive my daily actions. I don't completely lose myself, but I lose some assertiveness. This then causes me to fail **** tests. However, I still escalate kino despite the previous facts.

So how do you avoid this? I'm thinking I'm going to start drinking less when I go out.

Anyone else experience this as well?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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zinc4

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funny because i become the opposite unless i get sloppy drunk
 

Fatal Jay

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stop drinking, alcohol is poison to your body anyway. I don't drink or smoke because I love being focus no point in getting high or drunk it always leave to bad choices in your thinking and messes your body up, there are no benefits to it.
 

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Im similar, when I get really drunk, I just turn into a soppy little girl.

Thats why when I go out, I predrink as normal but when Im out, if Im out to pull, I have water past 12.

Cut the drink out as much as you can because it will hinder you. Put it this way, I went out twice last week. First time, found a girl I liked, flirted, she was interested, I was into her all was fine. But then I got too drunk and screwed it up, I just got too drunk and just acted like an idiot. Second night, I stopped drinking early on, had water and went back to a hotel with a girl. Sorted.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It's my problem when I have to much.. You reek of not having control of yourself.. major turn off. just like the women you see who cant stand up, yhey sure as hell arent pulling haha! having a drink is fine.. Just don't take it to far or your running the risk of ruining your night
 

Who Dares Win

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I find the sweet spot to be 2-3 shots of vodka or two drinks, less and you cant properly let yourself go emotionally (you can still approach kino and so on but the connection comes harder) while if you drink too much you risk to lose balance or have a bad feedback from your body.
 

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Just don't get sloppy drunk if you want to pull, we all know the effects and inhibitions of too much alcohol.

However it can be massively entertaining to hear from your friends in the morning how horribly you struck out with a random girl.

Gunner
 

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i like getting tipsy with alcohol, sometimes drunk (once in a blue moon). getting drunk = sloppiness which is not attractive. Getting tipsy = just adds to the confidence thats already there without getting sloppy. Finding that sweet spot is where its at.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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badboyjmm

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pdx1138 said:
same here
Exactly, the more I drink, I become super talkative. And if I'm out at a bar or a club, trust me, girls well get approach alot, I will start dancing for no reason and it's generally more fun for me.
 

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I find that having a drinks increases social fluidity and well as makes everything more comfortable. Just know your limit. Looking drunk and red in the face is a huge turn off. Sloppy.
 

iamnobody

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to the OP: work a bit more on your core and inner game and you'll be fine. And remember that now and then everybody fails a sh1t test. Most times it's not a big one so recovery should be easy.
 

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It forces you to observe yourself, and you realize your true desires.
Now just use that knowledge to eliminate those idiotic desires.
Monogamy is a waste of time.
It did the same to me.
 

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Fruitbat said:
It's wierd, if I am around other people I tend to be alpha as fook. Alcohol makes me aggressive and aloof.

If I am alone with a girl I tend to get beta and start thinking how much I love them and can't be without them.
For some reason that was very funny to me.

Back in my blue pill days, after drinking, I would like to tell them how great they were and that I really liked them. Problem was, this was usually during a ONS after only meeting the girl a few hours earlier. :rolleyes:
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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