"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alcohol brings out the beta in me

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I have realized alcohol's inhibiting effects strip my mind of the rational alpha principles that drive my daily actions. I don't completely lose myself, but I lose some assertiveness. This then causes me to fail **** tests. However, I still escalate kino despite the previous facts.

So how do you avoid this? I'm thinking I'm going to start drinking less when I go out.

Anyone else experience this as well?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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zinc4

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funny because i become the opposite unless i get sloppy drunk
 

Fatal Jay

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stop drinking, alcohol is poison to your body anyway. I don't drink or smoke because I love being focus no point in getting high or drunk it always leave to bad choices in your thinking and messes your body up, there are no benefits to it.
 

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Im similar, when I get really drunk, I just turn into a soppy little girl.

Thats why when I go out, I predrink as normal but when Im out, if Im out to pull, I have water past 12.

Cut the drink out as much as you can because it will hinder you. Put it this way, I went out twice last week. First time, found a girl I liked, flirted, she was interested, I was into her all was fine. But then I got too drunk and screwed it up, I just got too drunk and just acted like an idiot. Second night, I stopped drinking early on, had water and went back to a hotel with a girl. Sorted.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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playa99

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It's my problem when I have to much.. You reek of not having control of yourself.. major turn off. just like the women you see who cant stand up, yhey sure as hell arent pulling haha! having a drink is fine.. Just don't take it to far or your running the risk of ruining your night
 

Who Dares Win

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I find the sweet spot to be 2-3 shots of vodka or two drinks, less and you cant properly let yourself go emotionally (you can still approach kino and so on but the connection comes harder) while if you drink too much you risk to lose balance or have a bad feedback from your body.
 

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Just don't get sloppy drunk if you want to pull, we all know the effects and inhibitions of too much alcohol.

However it can be massively entertaining to hear from your friends in the morning how horribly you struck out with a random girl.

Gunner
 

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i like getting tipsy with alcohol, sometimes drunk (once in a blue moon). getting drunk = sloppiness which is not attractive. Getting tipsy = just adds to the confidence thats already there without getting sloppy. Finding that sweet spot is where its at.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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badboyjmm

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pdx1138 said:
same here
Exactly, the more I drink, I become super talkative. And if I'm out at a bar or a club, trust me, girls well get approach alot, I will start dancing for no reason and it's generally more fun for me.
 

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I find that having a drinks increases social fluidity and well as makes everything more comfortable. Just know your limit. Looking drunk and red in the face is a huge turn off. Sloppy.
 

iamnobody

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to the OP: work a bit more on your core and inner game and you'll be fine. And remember that now and then everybody fails a sh1t test. Most times it's not a big one so recovery should be easy.
 

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It forces you to observe yourself, and you realize your true desires.
Now just use that knowledge to eliminate those idiotic desires.
Monogamy is a waste of time.
It did the same to me.
 

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Fruitbat said:
It's wierd, if I am around other people I tend to be alpha as fook. Alcohol makes me aggressive and aloof.

If I am alone with a girl I tend to get beta and start thinking how much I love them and can't be without them.
For some reason that was very funny to me.

Back in my blue pill days, after drinking, I would like to tell them how great they were and that I really liked them. Problem was, this was usually during a ONS after only meeting the girl a few hours earlier. :rolleyes:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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