"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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AHHH! dunno wat to do

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i seriously need help with this. there are 2 girls one i i rilly like nd 1 dat had a nice bodny and somewhat of a face i want to go out with the 1st one but the other girl wants to give me head and practically **** her. these two are BEST friends so i know if i go with 1 i wont go wit the other. i dunt know which to pick. im lusting after the 1st girl so badly but im trying to conrol myself before i do something stupid
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Obviously go with the first one. If theyre best friends and the 1st girl doesnt do anything with you then be like your best friend told me she'd do __________ (insert own words here) with me. Hopefully, that'll change her mind into doing stuff with you if she wont already.
 

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Pick which ever one does better in English class, 'cause you could use the help.
 

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lol

wow, i don't post much, but i'm going to give a big

LOL to that one, nice job blienk ;)

A-
 

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Originally posted by Spoiled3289
Obviously go with the first one. If theyre best friends and the 1st girl doesnt do anything with you then be like your best friend told me she'd do __________ (insert own words here) with me. Hopefully, that'll change her mind into doing stuff with you if she wont already.
For once i'm actually going to agree with spoiled.

Don't sacrifice your attraction because of sex. You'll be happier with the chick you wanted to begin with even if your not ****ing her right away.

I don't know how the female psyche but i've never heard about saying "Your friends a slut that would sleep with me, so you should too." And actually working.

Make her feel she should be doing stuff with you because it will benefit her and your relationship. Don't give her the impression you NEED sex, or else you give her power.

Thats my 2 cents.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'd definitely go with the first one. You're attracted to her and there's a potential chance of getting more than just sex.
 

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i agree too, go with the first one. if her firend's a slut then she is too. birds of a feather fly together. if u can do one, then u can do the other. pick the one u wanna do more and dont take too long pickin. i made the mistake of not choosing which of 2 girls i wanted fast enough and they both ended up hating me :p.
 

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Yes the first one, it sounds like the second is desperate enough for you that if it doesnt work out with number 1# you could still hit it up with her.
 

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"Pick which ever one does better in English class, 'cause you could use the help."

LOL, damn thats funny as hell!!!! I always like remarks like this, cracks me up. lol

but seriously bro, using punctuation would help get your point across a little better.

about your little dilemma, i'd go with the first one, but still wouldn't give up hope with the 2nd one, just go straightforward with the 1st one, and talk with the 2nd one, if she offers, then tell her your seeing with so and so and if shes ok with it then damn you set it off perfectly if not then forget about it, shes the one that offered, you didnt ask
 
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