That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The technique is called "Sleight of Mouth" by Jamie Smart, a brilliant and talented NLP master instructor and therapist, who just did a David D' "Interview" last month...verysuave said:so u just ask a chick "do you swallow gum?" just thought of it, and am dying to try it
I did this one the other day. Girl gave me a piece of cake to eat. After I ate it she asked me if I liked the cake. I said slowly with a smile, "It was moist and delicious, and I really enjoyed eating it"DJDamage said:I remember reading a good article on sosuave or another site once about using sexual imagery while talking to a woman without sounding sexual. The whole point of it is to make her have sexual thoughts when you talk or when you are around her.
"mmmm I like this brand of coffee its so rich in flavour and very hot and smooth when you drink it"
"yesterday I played football and it was soo humid out there, I sweated alot so when I got home I took a nice cold shower and it was the best feeling in the world"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
her reponse?Canadian Catnip said:I did this one the other day. Girl gave me a piece of cake to eat. After I ate it she asked me if I liked the cake. I said slowly with a smile, "It was moist and delicious, and I really enjoyed eating it"