"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ahh, Another Dilemma

Jerky Boi

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Well guys, here it is:

My friend invites me to go to this local church program with this guest speaker at First Assembly of God. I end up going, and to my suprise, there was an abundance and I mean A LOT of girls there. I talk to a few people, mostly old friends and some other people. I sit down and my friend Chris( who invited me) motions for me to come n sit by him and 2 other girls. I sit next to this girl. (Keep in mind I came not really expecting to talk to any girls) I talk to her for a little bit, got her name, and she actually initiated kino first. Her body language was also very positive. Anyways, I didn't get to talk to her for a while since I forgot to get her number. I know, I know, I'm st00pid. Heh, well about a week after that, she comes up to my work to see a movie( I work in a theatre by the way). She smiled, and asked why I didn't go to church last week. I just told her that I was busy and forgot. She went in the movie with some friends and I walk in a few minutes later to do theatre checks. She waves and I leave. Coming outta the theatre, she came out and talked to me again. She asked if she'd be able to see me Wednesday at Church. I told her that I'd go and talked for about 2 minutes, then she left.

Here's where the problem erupts. As it turns out, my friend Chris is "talking" to her right now. Or so he says. Before I say anything else, let me give you a little background info on him. He LIES. And I mean constantly. I know he has her number but I highly doubt she's all that interested in him. He's also a sophomore, doesn't have a car, or a job either. The only thing he's really got going for him is that he's a pretty good athlete. Anyways, he called today and asked if I could give him a ride to Church. I told him I didn't know.

I really wanna get to talk to this girl at Church without him around but from the looks of it, he's gonna be there and sitting right next to us. I'm a pretty quick person, and I've concluded that he's probably starting to talk to this girl because I am. Plain and simple. I mean, he's my friend, but overall, he really isn't too bright.

Well, Church is tomorrow night at about 6:30. I plan on meeting her, talking, setting something up for the weekend, and picking up that number I forgot ;] You guys have any suggestions on how I should handle this situation with Chris?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is Chris nearly the DJ you are? You both want her. He's only interested because you are. Maybe if you just get her number and let Chris do the talking for the night he'll lose interest. (risky) I suggest getting her number, calling her and using (assumption) your superior DJ skills to get her to go on a date with you or something. This way Chris isn't involved.

Another thing, give it time. Say you see her and Chris going somewhere. Let it go. If my assumption from before is correct then she'll break up with him in a month or so. In that time you could go out with another chick from that church and show her you are in demand?

Just don't get caught up between her and Chris and forget to present your self as a challenge. It's very easy to resort back to being a nice guy to win chicks when they are the ones in demand. (for me anyways).

Well I hope some of my advice is useful. I feel like im just rambling sometimes.

Good luck
 

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:p

Just take your friend and have *fun*. Don't try to compete with him. He will try to compete with you from what you've said and donate a ton of attention to the lady. He's already way into the friendzone with this chick anyways.

You have nothing to worry about. Just have fun. She will get tired of him and come to you.

Lik
 

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DJ her and ignore him. Don't be an ass to him though. If he starts to ****block you, fight back in full force. He'll come off looking like an idiot and a little b1tch.
 

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Well guys, things went pretty well. Chris didn't even end up going lol. Anyways, I got the number, another positive reaction from her, and hopefully I'll get to do something with her soon. Thanks again guys :]
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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