You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I agree overall, but it's not that men are better at being an exec or something, it's all about women NOT GOING INTO THOSE FIELDS and putting in the hours and making the sacrifices it takes to get to that level. All things being equal women take easier, cushier, less difficult jobs on the whole and work less hours annually. All combined, BAM! there's your wage gap. It's been well documented for quite some time now. Check out the sidebar at http://www.reddit.com/r/mensrights. Hell, just look up the Consad report. The information is out there. Even NOW recognizes that the wage gap is a myth at this point.Greasy Pig said:So if there are no women in senior management, does that mean the company hates women or that the women who applied weren't up to scratch?
I refuse to accept the bullsht that women aren't employed as executives purely because they're women.
They just can't accept that a man is sometimes better at the job.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I would disagree with the first part. Men tend to be stronger leaders, are more able to form effective teams and are more likely to do better in executive type positions.Nutz said:I agree overall, but it's not that men are better at being an exec or something, it's all about women NOT GOING INTO THOSE FIELDS and putting in the hours and making the sacrifices it takes to get to that level. All things being equal women take easier, cushier, less difficult jobs on the whole and work less hours annually. All combined, BAM! there's your wage gap. It's been well documented for quite some time now. Check out the sidebar at http://www.reddit.com/r/mensrights. Hell, just look up the Consad report. The information is out there. Even NOW recognizes that the wage gap is a myth at this point.
samspade said:Women will always play the misogyny/sexism card. It's hammered into their brains from day one thanks to movies like this. And whenever they interview successful women, they always have to brag about all the sexist obstacles they overcame. I understand why anyone who's achieved success might look for motivation and take a "nobody believed in me" attitude. Unfortunately, for American women, the boogeyman must always be the archetypal, stereotypical Sexist Misogynist White Male Executive, forever conspiring to keep her down.
The truth is that women are a far greater threat to each other than most men. Women are the true misogynists. They will backbite and backstab and play dirty to eliminate their female competition. I've seen many a woman seethe with hatred over her female boss. Most men who have a-hole male bosses, while they may not like it, shrug their shoulders and consider their options, because a man will usually understand that nobody put him in that position but himself, and he can find a way out. Females in the work force are far more likely to find a scapegoat. Again - lack of accountability....funny how it always circles back to that.
scrouds said:I would disagree with the first part. Men tend to be stronger leaders, are more able to form effective teams and are more likely to do better in executive type positions.
Plus the type of women that go for these types of jobs are pretty masculine anyways. Its those masculine skills that are needed for these jobs.
The whole PC idea that women can do whatever men can do needs to die. While they may be able to, it comes at cost, be it extra effort, extra work, or even their feminitity.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.