You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I agree overall, but it's not that men are better at being an exec or something, it's all about women NOT GOING INTO THOSE FIELDS and putting in the hours and making the sacrifices it takes to get to that level. All things being equal women take easier, cushier, less difficult jobs on the whole and work less hours annually. All combined, BAM! there's your wage gap. It's been well documented for quite some time now. Check out the sidebar at http://www.reddit.com/r/mensrights. Hell, just look up the Consad report. The information is out there. Even NOW recognizes that the wage gap is a myth at this point.Greasy Pig said:So if there are no women in senior management, does that mean the company hates women or that the women who applied weren't up to scratch?
I refuse to accept the bullsht that women aren't employed as executives purely because they're women.
They just can't accept that a man is sometimes better at the job.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I would disagree with the first part. Men tend to be stronger leaders, are more able to form effective teams and are more likely to do better in executive type positions.Nutz said:I agree overall, but it's not that men are better at being an exec or something, it's all about women NOT GOING INTO THOSE FIELDS and putting in the hours and making the sacrifices it takes to get to that level. All things being equal women take easier, cushier, less difficult jobs on the whole and work less hours annually. All combined, BAM! there's your wage gap. It's been well documented for quite some time now. Check out the sidebar at http://www.reddit.com/r/mensrights. Hell, just look up the Consad report. The information is out there. Even NOW recognizes that the wage gap is a myth at this point.
samspade said:Women will always play the misogyny/sexism card. It's hammered into their brains from day one thanks to movies like this. And whenever they interview successful women, they always have to brag about all the sexist obstacles they overcame. I understand why anyone who's achieved success might look for motivation and take a "nobody believed in me" attitude. Unfortunately, for American women, the boogeyman must always be the archetypal, stereotypical Sexist Misogynist White Male Executive, forever conspiring to keep her down.
The truth is that women are a far greater threat to each other than most men. Women are the true misogynists. They will backbite and backstab and play dirty to eliminate their female competition. I've seen many a woman seethe with hatred over her female boss. Most men who have a-hole male bosses, while they may not like it, shrug their shoulders and consider their options, because a man will usually understand that nobody put him in that position but himself, and he can find a way out. Females in the work force are far more likely to find a scapegoat. Again - lack of accountability....funny how it always circles back to that.
scrouds said:I would disagree with the first part. Men tend to be stronger leaders, are more able to form effective teams and are more likely to do better in executive type positions.
Plus the type of women that go for these types of jobs are pretty masculine anyways. Its those masculine skills that are needed for these jobs.
The whole PC idea that women can do whatever men can do needs to die. While they may be able to, it comes at cost, be it extra effort, extra work, or even their feminitity.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.