"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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blinkwatt

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I still havent found the answer to this
"Do you kiss on the first date?"
i know alot say"if you feeling it go for it"
wouldnt the second date be more proper or is that too long to wait?
iv got a date on friday,any input would be nice.
how does dinner and mini golf sound for a first date?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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I usually wait to until the second date but if my kino is on high I just do it. The last woman I met with lasted all of 20 minutes before I kissed her. It wasn't anything major but it did let her know in no uncertain terms that I was interested in her and that she could continue to make advances on me if she wanted another kiss.
 

Desdinova

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iv got a date on friday,any input would be nice.
how does dinner and mini golf sound for a first date?
Depends on how well you know her. If you've known her for a while and have established good rapport, this is fine for a first date. If you barely know each other, going for a coffee is a much better idea.

I learned this the hard way. Women will respond better if you take things slowly on the outside, but move quickly on the inside. In other words, make a first date that doesn't seem like a first date, and work on attracting her to you.

As for the kiss after the first date, it all depends on how well things progress during that first date. If you do a good job at attracting her to you, you won't have a problem with a kiss after the first date. In fact, she may be the one to initiate it. I've been in situations where I got the kiss BEFORE the first date (after we met and exchanged numbers.)

For the inexperienced, let me put it this way, if you don't get a kiss by the end of the second date (or don't initiate it), she's
(a) not all that attracted to you
or
(b) You took too long to make a move

You'll most likely be in the friend zone if there's no kiss by the end of the second date.

If you want to do well, tease her (use ****y/funny) and combine that with kino.
 
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