Age Differences In Dating

[LoneSilver]

Is it possible to have a lets say a 20 year old lady to be sexually attracted to someone middle aged?

LoneSilver

 

[azanon]

Is it possible to have a lets say a 20 year old lady to be sexually attracted to someone middle aged?

LoneSilver

I think one's greatest risk trying to do that is the 20 year old looking down on the middle aged person because they are going to wonder why they cant/wont go after someone a bit more age appropriate. I dont think i even qualify as middle aged yet (do I? 35, young looking), and i'm not sure i could even tolerate being around most 20 year olds due to them being in a different stage of life/mindset than me.

 

[LoneSilver]

No you not middle age yet. When you get to 40 then your entering middle age.

Ok, I see your point here and is a good one. But let's say the 20 year old respects the middle age man and is sexually attracted to him. Is it more a sugar daddy attraction or is it a daddy figure type thing or is there really a sexual attraction for the middle age man wanting to date him or does one really know until they get to know them?

LoneSilver

I think one's greatest risk trying to do that is the 20 year old looking down on the middle aged person because they are going to wonder why they cant/wont go after someone a bit more age appropriate. I dont think i even qualify as middle aged yet (do I? 35, young looking), and i'm not sure i could even tolerate being around most 20 year olds due to them being in a different stage of life/mindset than me.

 

[logicallefty]

I posed a *similar* question on this forum a couple months ago when I, a 32 year old, was courting an 18 year old.. The answers I got from the more experienced DJs on here was go after the young woman, get some *ss, but don't hold high hopes for a LTR.. Just take the *ss while it's hot and move on immediately when she flakes.. I think this was very realistic advice..

 

[LoneSilver]

Was the relationship one of mutual respect and was she really into you? Did she spark your interest or did you see her smiling at you or something that made you mack on her to ask her out?

LoneSilver

I posed a *similar* question on this forum a couple months ago when I, a 32 year old, was courting an 18 year old.. The answers I got from the more experienced DJs on here was go after the young woman, get some *ss, but don't hold high hopes for a LTR.. Just take the *ss while it's hot and move on immediately when she flakes.. I think this was very realistic advice..

 

[MatureDJ]

It is natural for a young woman to be flaky. The key about young women is always be aware that she can flake on you at any time, and that you should just take it for what it is, and move on.

The only way to permanently (more or less) secure a young woman is to impregnate her, thereby giving her much more of a reason to find you desirable than other men.

 

[joekerr31]

after 25 age doesn't matter as a general rule.

before 25 age matters a lot. some folks under 25 are extremely mature. most however are still finding themselves.

most men and women under the age of 25 are AFCs. and many of the ones who aren't have just learned how not to act like one.

at around 25 a lot of folks seem to begin the process of no longer caring what others thing and they start to figure out what their views on life are.

personally i dont see how an 18 year old and a 30 year old can work. but thats just me. at 18 you have no concept of how short life is. you think its going to go on forever.

by 30 you realize that the years fly by and this isn't a dress rehearsal.

 

[insidious]

Frankly I could never be in a relationship with a woman under 30. There are just too many generational discrepancies to overcome.

However, if you're talking FB...that is another matter. If you are older but keep yourself in prime shape, there are the occassional young chicks who will dig your aged masculinity.

I've been off-and-on banging this chick exactly half my age...and since I keep myself in shape and don't look tooooo old, she digs my ferociousness in the sack. And that is where it ends. I would not, could not, ever find enough in common with her to maintain an equal-footing relationship. But when it comes to the sack, we're talking something else entirely

 

[cpddavis]

I'm 'involved' with a 21 year old, and I'm 30. We've never talked about it but I know its a big deal and an obstacle to what we have developing into anything further. I think we both have reservations (dealing with the age thing). In a perfect world it wouldn't matter that much, we like each other now and if it falls apart soon then it was just a fling, and if it stays together then by the time she's 25 and I'm 34 its not such a big deal. But that's from my side of the equation and I know that when I was in my young 20's I hooked up with some older girls with no intentions of taking it further based mostly on age (again, I know its different for guys and girls). Still, don't underestimate her reluctance to take her 10+ year older boyfriend to meet her parents. No matter how much she's into you it's a big deal. Sucks but true. Sometimes it works out though. Good luck.

 

[grinder]

Is it possible to have a lets say a 20 year old lady to be sexually attracted to someone middle aged?

LoneSilver

YES!

I’ve been pleasantly surprised by the sexual interest younger women have shown me. I only began to learn from this site last summer so when I started using my skills I had a “who me” [looks around for someone else] kind of reaction to the first time a 21 yo college student invited me to her apartment.

I thought it was a fluke, but no, it happens all the time.

You’d be a fool to expect a LTR from one of these kiddies. I spent a lot of time with a 22 yo this summer and every freakin place we went, it was the “….and your daughter….”. When we went places we’d walk arm-in-arm and at first people would say “oh how sweet, you have a great relationship with your daughter…” Then we’d kiss. That was so funny to see their reaction.

I do love that double-standard though. Its one of the few benefits us guys have in this society. That being, if we take care of ourselves, we look better with age. The key is being in excellent shape.

 

[LoneSilver]

Your post was inspiring. I am someone who likes keeping his gray-silver hair intact plus staying in shape seems to make the young ones take a double take and it is a ego boost as well.

All the post were interesting.

I was wondering what others thought on this matter as in other boards or forums you find alot of older women of coarse pissed at such a relationship.

I had a cousin who before his untimely death who was 49 and dated a babe only 19. It worked for him a couple of years and what I heard the sex was heaven but they both went their separate ways but one thing he was overweigh and didn't really take care of himself like he should have. But he was a good looking guy guess it runs in the family>wink

So with that relationship I was thinking maybe sugar daddy but I was happy for him as it is hard to ignore a young fit babe with a big smile on their faces wanting to sex you and I surely don't want to disappoint.

LoneSilver

YES!

I’ve been pleasantly surprised by the sexual interest younger women have shown me. I only began to learn from this site last summer so when I started using my skills I had a “who me” [looks around for someone else] kind of reaction to the first time a 21 yo college student invited me to her apartment.

I thought it was a fluke, but no, it happens all the time.

You’d be a fool to expect a LTR from one of these kiddies. I spent a lot of time with a 22 yo this summer and every freakin place we went, it was the “….and your daughter….”. When we went places we’d walk arm-in-arm and at first people would say “oh how sweet, you have a great relationship with your daughter…” Then we’d kiss. That was so funny to see their reaction.

I do love that double-standard though. Its one of the few benefits us guys have in this society. That being, if we take care of ourselves, we look better with age. The key is being in excellent shape.

 

[grinder]

I’m sure plenty of other older men can report getting the same attention from younger women. I don’t think it is that unusual.

At first I thought is was the sugar-daddy/curiosity thing with their interest. I do have some coins to rub together and can afford to take them on trips, but it was not just that. I was more surprised they are very serious about the relationship. TOO serious. I still take it as infatuation, but don’t try to tell them that, they get pissed.

Another surprise is my two oldest children are the LEAST accepting of me dating younger women. So there are lots of barriers, but not the one’s you would expect.

 

[joekerr31]

banging younger women is like playing video games - you know you really are too old to be doing it, but its still fun.

 

[ER!C L!VE]

Is it possible to have a lets say a 20 year old lady to be sexually attracted to someone middle aged?

LoneSilver

Hmm let's see...

Brad Pitt age 43
Tom Cruise age 44
Clive Owen age 42
Johnny Depp age 43
George Clooney age 45
ER!C L!VE age 32 - Ok, I'm not there yet, but I look old.

Younger girls seem to dig these guys

 

[st_99]

Let me throw my situation in this....

I'm 31 and have been "involved" with a 21 for a little while.

This girl is a blast, the sex is GREAT, she has a slamm'n body and I can't get enough of her.
I try to keep myself grounded as far as not getting too rapped up in the situation but damn its HARD...


Thats all!

 

[LoneSilver]

LOL! I am sure it is hard st_99

LoneSilver

Let me throw my situation in this....

I'm 31 and have been "involved" with a 21 for a little while.

This girl is a blast, the sex is GREAT, she has a slamm'n body and I can't get enough of her.
I try to keep myself grounded as far as not getting too rapped up in the situation but damn its HARD...


Thats all!

 

[realsmoothie]

Girls are all different, no matter what the age.

The last two girls I was with were 20 and 22, respectively. The first was basically a teenager in her head... the second was more mature than me.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Troops,


I've been seeing a lady in her mid-twenties (15 years younger than me), who seems to be MOSTLY sexually attracted to me. I've been seeing her for about 3 months so far and I'm the one who has to stop HER from thinking about sex all the time. lol

Here are my stats: I'm a good looking guy who looks far younger than I actually am (you know, just like EVERYBODY ELSE on this board...lol). Most women I meet are usually shocked when I tell them my age. Many don't believe me. But because age is always a potential sticking point, I NEVER tell any woman my age right up front.

The reason is simple, and I've wrote about it in books, and I think I've mentioned it on here before too:

People look for reasons NOT to date you.

So because of this, I've found it's always better to allow women a chance to get to know YOU first. That way, hopefully, by the time they find out more ABOUT you, they are already invested enough in you HOLISTICLY to allow a minor detail about you to dissuade them from dating you.

But anyway, back to the question. YES. Women DO find older guys SEXUALLY attractive. In fact, I think that if you are an attractive man (whatever THAT means to that particular woman), she'll wanna get with you NO MATTER what your age is.

There's a reason why Denzel Washington still has as many girls on his jock as Shemar Moore. And there's a 16 or 17 year age difference between these two guys.

Shemar Moore
http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0005245/

Denzel Washington
http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000243/

And with the woman I just mentioned, I have spent no major money on her---just the usual dinner/movie type stuff. So her attraction to me does not seem to be financially driven, but I'm always looking...LOL. But all I can tell you is this:

I give this girl orgasms like she NEVER had before. And it's not just about me having mastered some physical technique either. I have made this woman orgasm by just whispering in her EAR. lol

So both the IDEA of me, AND what I do to her physically routinely makes her have multiple orgasms for almost 30 minutes AFTER I've stopped actually stimulating her. WTF??? LOL

Now my purpose for sharing this is NOT to paint myself as a SEXUAL Demi-God, but quite the contrary. Sure, I'm pretty good with "the sex", but I have NEVER had this kind of effect on a woman of ANY age. So that's what leads me to believe that this chemistry between me and her is not due to external material factors-----but rather, it's MOSTLY sexual.

So forget about taking those sexual performance enhancing drugs, soldiers. Because I believe that fine Ass younger women who BEG to fukk YOU-----"ARE" viagra. lol


Peace...one day.

 

[STR8UP]

Are you crazy???? This is the greatest gift given to man!

My last LTR was with a 21 year old when I was 31. I NEVER got tired of getting fukked and sucked whenever and wherever I wanted by that little hottie. When I broke up with her at age 34 the next chick I hooked up with with was 20. Then I brought it up a notch and started seeing a 33 year old. She was very attractive for 33, but there is NOTHING like a hot, tight, young body.

Basically, THEY ARE ALL THE SAME. Yea, older women are more mature and all, but the cattiness and crap doesn't go away with age. If anything they really start to worry about younger competition when they get older. The 33 yr old knew about the 20 yr old and CONSTANTLY brought it up like it was a bad thing. I would just sit back and laugh cause I knew she was just projecting her insecurities about approaching her "use by" date.

I'm sure it does help to LOOK younger (I'm 35 but most people still think I'm in my 20's) but that's not all that counts. I would like to think that as long as I take care of myself I will still be able to pull younger women for quite a few more years.

For some reason I relate well with younger women. That gives you an advantage as well.

My dad told me years ago that my 30's would be the best time of my life. I had no clue what he meant, but now that I'm there I know exactly what he was talking about. You're old enough to know better but young enough not to care. Even if you are an AFC you gain a certain confidence in knowing that you can gain respect from older people as well as younger ones and women eat it up.

Enjoy being an older, single man. You're EARNED that sweet taste of victory for all the years when women held the cards.

 

[STR8UP]

But anyway, back to the question. YES. Women DO find older guys SEXUALLY attractive. In fact, I think that if you are an attractive man (whatever THAT means to that particular woman), she'll wanna get with you NO MATTER what your age is.

Yea, I should have addressed the actual question of the poster.

You can't fake a hot, dripping wet pu$$y. The sex isn't gonna be good with a woman who isn't sexually attracted to you. It might not be good if she IS sexually attracted to you, but if it IS good you can be sure that the chemistry is there on that level.

And with the woman I just mentioned, I have spent no major money on her---just the usual dinner/movie type stuff. So her attraction to me does not seem to be financially driven, but I'm always looking...LOL.

Yea, the 20 yr old was buying ME gifts, even though she thinks I'm filthy rich!

Now my purpose for sharing this is NOT to paint myself as a SEXUAL Demi-God, but quite the contrary. Sure, I'm pretty good with "the sex", but I have NEVER had this kind of effect on a woman of ANY age. So that's what leads me to believe that this chemistry between me and her is not due to external material factors-----but rather, it's MOSTLY sexual.

It's funny you should mention that, cause the last three girls I have been with (20,21, and 33) have all expressed how much they were into fukking me. Never in my life have I gotten sexual compliments like that. Coincidence, or a high level of sexual attraction? Hmmm....