"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

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Okay, so I just recently danced at a club Saturday night, which was really exciting since I'm only 17 and got in with a fake I.D. Anyways, I went with a group of guys and girls I know from high school and had a really fun time. There were two girls in particular that I really enjoyed dancing with. I just asked one of them earlier tonight if she plans on going again this upcoming Saturday since she's going on vacation next week. She told me that she might be able to and it just depends on how much packing she gets done. However, I haven't mentioned anything to the other girl.

I was wondering if it's best for me to say nothing to the other girl and hope I see her again next Saturdy night, let her bring up going again Saturday, or should I initiate it and ask her if she plans on going again Saturday? Also, should I ask either one of the girls if they enjoyed themselves at the club or will I just be putting myself in a bad situation?
 

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yaa dont ask they other girl....

you dont want to come off needy. If you see her though(at the club)...dance with her....get her comfortable with you...then take her away from her friends...and then its all up to what your motives are

good luck bro
 
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Well this girl is one of my friends on facebook and so I contacted her via facebook since I don't have her phone number or aim screen name. This is how the conversation went:

Me- So are you planning on going to Necto again this weekend?
Her - hmm..i'm thinking no? lol. i dunno.

So as you can see, it definitely did not go well. Her response is kind of weird too. She did say, "I dunno" so there's still a chance she might go. Anyways, did I completely blow it with her? What should I have done differently and what can I do now to get her to come? I don't really know what to do now, because I didn't expect the reponse I got at all. I thought she enjoyed herself at the dance.
 
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I'm looking for any kind of advice here. Read the post directly above this one.
 
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She said no, and then dunno. Not yes and maybe/probably.

Frankly, you seriously should NOT care this much about a random chick.
 

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LikRetsam said:
She said no, and then dunno. Not yes and maybe/probably.

Frankly, you seriously should NOT care this much about a random chick.
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I know, but she isn't just a random chick. I went to high school and middle school with her. My one weakness is that I do tend to fall for girls fast and quickly, but it usually ends up tapering off. So I do seem pretty obsessed with her right now, but I'll probably forget about her in a week or so if nothing happens.

But you didn't really give me any advice either. You just basically told me what I already know.
 
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bro her "i dunno" is a "HELL NO LOSER" just in a nice way...

its a nite club...you dont need her around

dont waste your time becoming needy around them...right now they arent intrested in you and neither should you be interested in them.

go live life and have them wonder to you...if it happens
 
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I love how no one is responding to my post, besides Charm&Style and his advice isn't even helpful.
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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You're an idiot.
 
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Alright. You need helpful advice? Heres the deal. You barely know these girls. You danced with them. Whoopdee do. The only thing you talk to them about is the club, and its basically a brief "Are you going?" This is extremely pointless.

Just go. Forget about her. YOu talk about falling for a girl quickly? It's because you focus on one girl. You're worried about her, and she probably doesn't even know your name. If she does, it's only because you've got it on facebook.

Just go to the club this weekend, do your thing. Get some numbers. Get some follow ups. Get some nookie.
 
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Skilla_Staz said:
Alright. You need helpful advice? Heres the deal. You barely know these girls. You danced with them. Whoopdee do. The only thing you talk to them about is the club, and its basically a brief "Are you going?" This is extremely pointless.

Just go. Forget about her. YOu talk about falling for a girl quickly? It's because you focus on one girl. You're worried about her, and she probably doesn't even know your name. If she does, it's only because you've got it on facebook.

Just go to the club this weekend, do your thing. Get some numbers. Get some follow ups. Get some nookie.
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Thanks for the advice, but you're wrong about me not knowing the girls at all. I've known them since middle school and I was just really surprised from the response of the one girl. That's probably why I'm focusing on her so much.
 
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