"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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After 2 years

Mustache

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We live in different states

I am 41 and she is 35

Years ago we met 8 times and had some sex, I tried to have her fell in love with me but I could never achieved it

Then I finally I dediced to end the relationship in july 2005 and we became only friends
until july 2006 meting only for seminar purposes

That's almost 2 years past since I don't see her anymore

Yesterday I e-mailed her and then had some chat
over the MSN. I could see her over the webcam and she asked me to show myself but I told I could not

Hours later, I email her asking her to help me with some college task

She just replayed with the short e-mail below:

"So, is this the reason why you remembered me ?? take care..."

What could it mean ?

And should I reply: "No, I remembered you because I still like you"

"I never forgot you"
You should I only stay quiet ?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It means that she concluded that the reason that you contacted her again after a 2 year break was so that you could convince her to help you with a college assignment. She believes that you were about to USE her for what she can do for you, and not because you have any genuine feelings for her.
 
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Thank you

But is it wise to show interest on her ?
Could she have changed her mind because of
this question, or is she just playing ?


jophil28 said:
I means that she concluded that the reason that you contacted her again after a 2 year break was so that you could convince her to help you with a college assignment. She believes that you were about to USE her for what she can do for you, and not because you have any genuine feelings for her.
 

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More importantly, are you that desparate that you can't go out and find new women that you have to call up a women from 3 years ago, a women that you said, you couldn't get her to fall for you. So she had low interest in you back then, that means to me, thats she's not going to all of a sudden be madly in love with you.

I'm sorry I dont mean to be mean, but I'm trying to point out to you, how silly your actions are. At least most of the chumps on here are pining over girls they loved before.
 

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Mustache, if she was into you, she would've been happy you were contacting her regardless of your reason. And she would've been happy to help you.

It's not about YOU showing a woman interest. It's about reading hers. If hers isn't there, it doesn't matter how much you declare your interest.

In fact, you already showed your interest when you earlier contacted her and then when you chatted, so when you emailed hours later about the assignment you needed help with, obviously that was way down on your list, like an addendum. If it was your primary purpose for contacting her, obviously you would've discussed it right up front early on.

But she turned that into the reason to blow you off. That tells you a lot right there.

And if you respond the way you're thinking of, you're only demonstrating that you jump when she cracks her whip.

Don't go back in time to uninterested women in the past, unless you like reruns of the same old episodes with the same endings. And don't cross state lines; LDR have the odds stacked against them.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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jophil28

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Mustache said:
Thank you

But is it wise to show interest on her ?
Could she have changed her mind because of
this question, or is she just playing ?
You blew it already with her by asking her to help with your assignment.
Women hate being used like this - to them you are a rat for asking her for anything. You job is to give women ATTENTION , not chores ( they all believe this crap)
However. she would have no hestitation in calling YOU and to ask you to come over and fix her lawnmower.
 
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