"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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After 2 years

Mustache

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We live in different states

I am 41 and she is 35

Years ago we met 8 times and had some sex, I tried to have her fell in love with me but I could never achieved it

Then I finally I dediced to end the relationship in july 2005 and we became only friends
until july 2006 meting only for seminar purposes

That's almost 2 years past since I don't see her anymore

Yesterday I e-mailed her and then had some chat
over the MSN. I could see her over the webcam and she asked me to show myself but I told I could not

Hours later, I email her asking her to help me with some college task

She just replayed with the short e-mail below:

"So, is this the reason why you remembered me ?? take care..."

What could it mean ?

And should I reply: "No, I remembered you because I still like you"

"I never forgot you"
You should I only stay quiet ?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It means that she concluded that the reason that you contacted her again after a 2 year break was so that you could convince her to help you with a college assignment. She believes that you were about to USE her for what she can do for you, and not because you have any genuine feelings for her.
 
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Thank you

But is it wise to show interest on her ?
Could she have changed her mind because of
this question, or is she just playing ?


jophil28 said:
I means that she concluded that the reason that you contacted her again after a 2 year break was so that you could convince her to help you with a college assignment. She believes that you were about to USE her for what she can do for you, and not because you have any genuine feelings for her.
 

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More importantly, are you that desparate that you can't go out and find new women that you have to call up a women from 3 years ago, a women that you said, you couldn't get her to fall for you. So she had low interest in you back then, that means to me, thats she's not going to all of a sudden be madly in love with you.

I'm sorry I dont mean to be mean, but I'm trying to point out to you, how silly your actions are. At least most of the chumps on here are pining over girls they loved before.
 

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Mustache, if she was into you, she would've been happy you were contacting her regardless of your reason. And she would've been happy to help you.

It's not about YOU showing a woman interest. It's about reading hers. If hers isn't there, it doesn't matter how much you declare your interest.

In fact, you already showed your interest when you earlier contacted her and then when you chatted, so when you emailed hours later about the assignment you needed help with, obviously that was way down on your list, like an addendum. If it was your primary purpose for contacting her, obviously you would've discussed it right up front early on.

But she turned that into the reason to blow you off. That tells you a lot right there.

And if you respond the way you're thinking of, you're only demonstrating that you jump when she cracks her whip.

Don't go back in time to uninterested women in the past, unless you like reruns of the same old episodes with the same endings. And don't cross state lines; LDR have the odds stacked against them.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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jophil28

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Mustache said:
Thank you

But is it wise to show interest on her ?
Could she have changed her mind because of
this question, or is she just playing ?
You blew it already with her by asking her to help with your assignment.
Women hate being used like this - to them you are a rat for asking her for anything. You job is to give women ATTENTION , not chores ( they all believe this crap)
However. she would have no hestitation in calling YOU and to ask you to come over and fix her lawnmower.
 
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