"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Afraid to talk to girls? Maybe your friends are to blame

tryst type

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Just had a realization last night while out with one of my friends. He by nature is an introvert and kind of a downer.

While we were out I'd try to be open and friendly to people but his energy would instantly kill the mood and I'd feel held back.

Then I started thinking about my other friends and they're all in serious relationships, which makes them very held back in talking to strangers!

Couldn't help but notice they play a big role in my somewhat disposition to hesitate talking to girls sometimes.

Anyway to fix this? I'm now aware which should help.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Konada

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Sarge solo. Or find new friends who are into sarging as well.
 

Locogooner

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****ing oath!

whenever I'm with my more popular outgoing friends i feel more confident and "gamey"
 

Mr Wright

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Ive got the same issue with my friend, i know that he'd never approach a girl. So what i do is, i go out with 2-3 guys and open a large set of girls and bring them over to my guy friends. The guys are happy and i can do whatever, i can keep coming back and flirt with the chick im interested in, then take the attention away by going off to find other girls. Works a treat.

Or go out on your own, which has its drawbacks and its benefits.

Or hang around with guys that you meet out who talk to chicks. Nothing against community guys but i find them the worst to hang out with(from my experience) because all they want to do is approach and talk game. I'd rather just chill with my beer, talk about football rather than have to approach 20 sets in 3 hours. If someone catches my eye, i'll go and say hi.
 

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Go solo without looking creepy. Extra points for a Ferrari.

Don't go out with players, they'll take your targets for their personal gain.
Don't go out with downers, they'll clip you out of the sky.
Do go out with ATTRACTIVE women, they make you appear more desirable.

Do a barrel roll!

Case closed.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Borknagar

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Yeah man, ditch people who are negative to your life, I've done that. I have nothing to do with my old friends. Get some new ones, get ones into pic up, believe it or not but I've met quite a few cool ass dudes from the pick up scene, not all are douches like the so called "master PUA gurus" are kinda known to be.

I totally ditched my old groiups of friends, they had nothing going for them, losers, lazy asses mental issues, etc. PLus my interests and my personality has changed to be nothing like those guys.
 

Mike32ct

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If your wingman is hot and/or has great game, you lose.

If your wingman is ugly and/or has sh@tty game, you lose.

If your wingman is a Community guy who only wants to talk game and run silly openers, you lose.

If your wingman is shy and quiet, you lose.

If your wingman is life of the party outgoing (and you aren't), you lose.

I had zero success until I started going solo.
 

Konada

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Mike32ct said:
If your wingman is hot and/or has great game, you lose.

If your wingman is ugly and/or has sh@tty game, you lose.

If your wingman is a Community guy who only wants to talk game and run silly openers, you lose.

If your wingman is shy and quiet, you lose.

If your wingman is life of the party outgoing (and you aren't), you lose.

I had zero success until I started going solo.
If your wingman is a hot woman - You win
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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