"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Afraid to talk to girls? Maybe your friends are to blame

tryst type

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Just had a realization last night while out with one of my friends. He by nature is an introvert and kind of a downer.

While we were out I'd try to be open and friendly to people but his energy would instantly kill the mood and I'd feel held back.

Then I started thinking about my other friends and they're all in serious relationships, which makes them very held back in talking to strangers!

Couldn't help but notice they play a big role in my somewhat disposition to hesitate talking to girls sometimes.

Anyway to fix this? I'm now aware which should help.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Konada

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Sarge solo. Or find new friends who are into sarging as well.
 

Locogooner

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****ing oath!

whenever I'm with my more popular outgoing friends i feel more confident and "gamey"
 

Mr Wright

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Ive got the same issue with my friend, i know that he'd never approach a girl. So what i do is, i go out with 2-3 guys and open a large set of girls and bring them over to my guy friends. The guys are happy and i can do whatever, i can keep coming back and flirt with the chick im interested in, then take the attention away by going off to find other girls. Works a treat.

Or go out on your own, which has its drawbacks and its benefits.

Or hang around with guys that you meet out who talk to chicks. Nothing against community guys but i find them the worst to hang out with(from my experience) because all they want to do is approach and talk game. I'd rather just chill with my beer, talk about football rather than have to approach 20 sets in 3 hours. If someone catches my eye, i'll go and say hi.
 

nismo-4

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Go solo without looking creepy. Extra points for a Ferrari.

Don't go out with players, they'll take your targets for their personal gain.
Don't go out with downers, they'll clip you out of the sky.
Do go out with ATTRACTIVE women, they make you appear more desirable.

Do a barrel roll!

Case closed.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Borknagar

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Yeah man, ditch people who are negative to your life, I've done that. I have nothing to do with my old friends. Get some new ones, get ones into pic up, believe it or not but I've met quite a few cool ass dudes from the pick up scene, not all are douches like the so called "master PUA gurus" are kinda known to be.

I totally ditched my old groiups of friends, they had nothing going for them, losers, lazy asses mental issues, etc. PLus my interests and my personality has changed to be nothing like those guys.
 

Mike32ct

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If your wingman is hot and/or has great game, you lose.

If your wingman is ugly and/or has sh@tty game, you lose.

If your wingman is a Community guy who only wants to talk game and run silly openers, you lose.

If your wingman is shy and quiet, you lose.

If your wingman is life of the party outgoing (and you aren't), you lose.

I had zero success until I started going solo.
 

Konada

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Mike32ct said:
If your wingman is hot and/or has great game, you lose.

If your wingman is ugly and/or has sh@tty game, you lose.

If your wingman is a Community guy who only wants to talk game and run silly openers, you lose.

If your wingman is shy and quiet, you lose.

If your wingman is life of the party outgoing (and you aren't), you lose.

I had zero success until I started going solo.
If your wingman is a hot woman - You win
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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