"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Afraid of having a relationship.

Alextheegreat

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Idk why, but Im thinking about being in a relationship and something just screams to me its not fun, and you have to listen to her ect. What are the pro's and con's with being in a relationship?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ambition Now

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You shouldnt think about relationships the way you are doing.

A man never pursuit for a relationship, that what women do, a man should pusuit his independence and objectives in life.

I understand you "not wanting" a relationship right now, if you are in doubt, dont get into one... if sometime you feel you want a deeper conncection with a girl, than you may consider getting into a relationship.

Being single and being in a relationship have their own pros and cons, just do what you feel like ATM.
 

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Maybe you have an Avoidant Personality? Look it up!
 

Ambition Now

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Do you want to be in a relationship but you are not because of this fear or you simply dont want to because it seems a bad idea?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Alextheegreat

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You guys make excellent points, I mean I do want to have that close connection with the women and all, but I don't like the idea of well not being able to do what I want. I guess when I think of a relationship I see my friends as "whippped" I have no idea how to prevent that action, how to remain dominate over the woman but yet still enjoy her company, do any of you understand that?
 

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Only you can know through experience. Ask 20 different men this and you may very well get 20 totally different answers.

PROs and CONs can vary. The CONs are more pronounced, such as not being able to f*ck other women and having to trust one other individual. The PROs may typically be constant sex, or just the feeling of security. Some men actually do BETTER in work and other areas when they have a secure relationship. On the other hand, some men feel strapped down and belittled.

Only you can find out for yourself.
 

ENIGMA16

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The only time you should go into a relationship is when you think that the benefits of being in the relationship significantly outweigh the negative consequences it will have on your life. Also, if you decide to go into a relationship you need to set strict boundaries for yourself on when you will call it off so that you don't end up stuck in a relationship you don't like.

But you don't have to be afraid of them. When you meet a girl that's relationship material you'll know. Tread carefully (because it really is a big decision), but don't be afraid of it. You can always call it off.
 
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