"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Afraid of having a relationship.

Alextheegreat

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Idk why, but Im thinking about being in a relationship and something just screams to me its not fun, and you have to listen to her ect. What are the pro's and con's with being in a relationship?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ambition Now

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You shouldnt think about relationships the way you are doing.

A man never pursuit for a relationship, that what women do, a man should pusuit his independence and objectives in life.

I understand you "not wanting" a relationship right now, if you are in doubt, dont get into one... if sometime you feel you want a deeper conncection with a girl, than you may consider getting into a relationship.

Being single and being in a relationship have their own pros and cons, just do what you feel like ATM.
 

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Maybe you have an Avoidant Personality? Look it up!
 

Ambition Now

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Do you want to be in a relationship but you are not because of this fear or you simply dont want to because it seems a bad idea?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Alextheegreat

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You guys make excellent points, I mean I do want to have that close connection with the women and all, but I don't like the idea of well not being able to do what I want. I guess when I think of a relationship I see my friends as "whippped" I have no idea how to prevent that action, how to remain dominate over the woman but yet still enjoy her company, do any of you understand that?
 

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Only you can know through experience. Ask 20 different men this and you may very well get 20 totally different answers.

PROs and CONs can vary. The CONs are more pronounced, such as not being able to f*ck other women and having to trust one other individual. The PROs may typically be constant sex, or just the feeling of security. Some men actually do BETTER in work and other areas when they have a secure relationship. On the other hand, some men feel strapped down and belittled.

Only you can find out for yourself.
 

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The only time you should go into a relationship is when you think that the benefits of being in the relationship significantly outweigh the negative consequences it will have on your life. Also, if you decide to go into a relationship you need to set strict boundaries for yourself on when you will call it off so that you don't end up stuck in a relationship you don't like.

But you don't have to be afraid of them. When you meet a girl that's relationship material you'll know. Tread carefully (because it really is a big decision), but don't be afraid of it. You can always call it off.
 
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