Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Afraid of having a relationship.

Alextheegreat

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Idk why, but Im thinking about being in a relationship and something just screams to me its not fun, and you have to listen to her ect. What are the pro's and con's with being in a relationship?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ambition Now

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You shouldnt think about relationships the way you are doing.

A man never pursuit for a relationship, that what women do, a man should pusuit his independence and objectives in life.

I understand you "not wanting" a relationship right now, if you are in doubt, dont get into one... if sometime you feel you want a deeper conncection with a girl, than you may consider getting into a relationship.

Being single and being in a relationship have their own pros and cons, just do what you feel like ATM.
 

Blue Phoenix

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Maybe you have an Avoidant Personality? Look it up!
 

Ambition Now

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Do you want to be in a relationship but you are not because of this fear or you simply dont want to because it seems a bad idea?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Alextheegreat

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You guys make excellent points, I mean I do want to have that close connection with the women and all, but I don't like the idea of well not being able to do what I want. I guess when I think of a relationship I see my friends as "whippped" I have no idea how to prevent that action, how to remain dominate over the woman but yet still enjoy her company, do any of you understand that?
 

WC2

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Only you can know through experience. Ask 20 different men this and you may very well get 20 totally different answers.

PROs and CONs can vary. The CONs are more pronounced, such as not being able to f*ck other women and having to trust one other individual. The PROs may typically be constant sex, or just the feeling of security. Some men actually do BETTER in work and other areas when they have a secure relationship. On the other hand, some men feel strapped down and belittled.

Only you can find out for yourself.
 

ENIGMA16

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The only time you should go into a relationship is when you think that the benefits of being in the relationship significantly outweigh the negative consequences it will have on your life. Also, if you decide to go into a relationship you need to set strict boundaries for yourself on when you will call it off so that you don't end up stuck in a relationship you don't like.

But you don't have to be afraid of them. When you meet a girl that's relationship material you'll know. Tread carefully (because it really is a big decision), but don't be afraid of it. You can always call it off.
 
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