"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Affirmations!

Gubby

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I'll keep this quick.

Affirmations are important!

Everyone talks to himself in his head. So in a way we already do this. The problem is that most people say negative things: "I suck". "I can't". "It's impossible". "I don't have any control over this". They're usually self-fulfilling prophecies: FOR AS YOU THINK, YOU SHALL BECOME!

Look at your thoughts as tools to get what you want. They're not "truth". Anything can be truth. So you can change your thoughts. Observe them and decide the effect your thoughts have on you, and which ones to change.

Hypnosis isn't so special, you do it all the time by TALKING TO YOURSELF. Every thought you have is instructions to your unconscious on how to be and how to feel.

Have phrases to recite mentally to counter other self-talk that has become ingrained. For instance: "It's impossible" is countered by "nothing is impossible". (At least, we don't know everything so how can we know what's possible without doing it?:D)

I came up with this affirmation for when I feel bad about myself, bad about someone else, superior or inferior: "everyone is equal".

One thing: don't use negatives. If you say "don't be scared" your unconscious mind picks up on the word scared and makes you scared. You have to focus on what it would be like if you DIDN'T have the emotion: i.e. you'd think about how you should prepare, for instance. Or a feeling of confidence. If that doesn't work, make up a word which means "the opposite or lack of the unwanted thing". So instead of "don't be scared", say "be real". "Real" in this case is your name for the unscared state.
 

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Thats good I believe you, you shouldnt think negative pretty good.
 

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Gubby said:
For instance: "It's impossible" is countered by "nothing is impossible".

One thing: don't use negatives. If you say "don't be scared" your unconscious mind picks up on the word scared and makes you scared.
and then in the first place your mind picks up the word impossible ... etc.
btw this tip was way too obvious imo :p
 

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qlo said:
and then in the first place your mind picks up the word impossible ... etc.
btw this tip was way too obvious imo :p
Yeah but people still go on having self-defeating thoughts! What's up with that?
 

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Replace "nothing is impossible" with "I can do anything".
Your mind doesn't know the difference between "impossible" and negating "impossible", when you say that word you'll start thinking about impossibilities.
So to make this short: better use positive language instead of negating like instead of "I'm not shy" go with "I am courageous".
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Migel said:
Replace "nothing is impossible" with "I can do anything".
Your mind doesn't know the difference between "impossible" and negating "impossible", when you say that word you'll start thinking about impossibilities.
So to make this short: better use positive language instead of negating like instead of "I'm not shy" go with "I am courageous".
Yeah, I know, but this isn't meant to be a subconscious command, when you say "it's impossible" that's the rational mind speaking so saying "nothing is impossible" is like saying "fu'ck that."
 
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