"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Affirmations!

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I'll keep this quick.

Affirmations are important!

Everyone talks to himself in his head. So in a way we already do this. The problem is that most people say negative things: "I suck". "I can't". "It's impossible". "I don't have any control over this". They're usually self-fulfilling prophecies: FOR AS YOU THINK, YOU SHALL BECOME!

Look at your thoughts as tools to get what you want. They're not "truth". Anything can be truth. So you can change your thoughts. Observe them and decide the effect your thoughts have on you, and which ones to change.

Hypnosis isn't so special, you do it all the time by TALKING TO YOURSELF. Every thought you have is instructions to your unconscious on how to be and how to feel.

Have phrases to recite mentally to counter other self-talk that has become ingrained. For instance: "It's impossible" is countered by "nothing is impossible". (At least, we don't know everything so how can we know what's possible without doing it?:D)

I came up with this affirmation for when I feel bad about myself, bad about someone else, superior or inferior: "everyone is equal".

One thing: don't use negatives. If you say "don't be scared" your unconscious mind picks up on the word scared and makes you scared. You have to focus on what it would be like if you DIDN'T have the emotion: i.e. you'd think about how you should prepare, for instance. Or a feeling of confidence. If that doesn't work, make up a word which means "the opposite or lack of the unwanted thing". So instead of "don't be scared", say "be real". "Real" in this case is your name for the unscared state.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Thats good I believe you, you shouldnt think negative pretty good.
 

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Gubby said:
For instance: "It's impossible" is countered by "nothing is impossible".

One thing: don't use negatives. If you say "don't be scared" your unconscious mind picks up on the word scared and makes you scared.
and then in the first place your mind picks up the word impossible ... etc.
btw this tip was way too obvious imo :p
 

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qlo said:
and then in the first place your mind picks up the word impossible ... etc.
btw this tip was way too obvious imo :p
Yeah but people still go on having self-defeating thoughts! What's up with that?
 

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Replace "nothing is impossible" with "I can do anything".
Your mind doesn't know the difference between "impossible" and negating "impossible", when you say that word you'll start thinking about impossibilities.
So to make this short: better use positive language instead of negating like instead of "I'm not shy" go with "I am courageous".
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Migel said:
Replace "nothing is impossible" with "I can do anything".
Your mind doesn't know the difference between "impossible" and negating "impossible", when you say that word you'll start thinking about impossibilities.
So to make this short: better use positive language instead of negating like instead of "I'm not shy" go with "I am courageous".
Yeah, I know, but this isn't meant to be a subconscious command, when you say "it's impossible" that's the rational mind speaking so saying "nothing is impossible" is like saying "fu'ck that."
 
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