"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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how do u reply to these guys?

they see rejection as something bad

also

what differentiates the DJ from AFCS? because truth is, they get girls too, so how do you express this?


thanks man
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Might not be a good answer, but Hitler didn't control Germany without trying.
 

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As long as you're approaching, you have a chance. You always need to take action. Women usually don't fall into a man's lap.
 

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void957 said:
what differentiates the DJ from AFCS? because truth is, they get girls too, so how do you express this?
By realizing you are the great catch.
 

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Reply to married AFC: "Tell ya what.. In 10 years if you are still married to (AFC wife) then I will let you grill me with any question like that you want"

Reply to unmarried AFC: "My methods works well for me right now. How is your method of getting women going for you?"
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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It's not very different than any other path in life.

Are you going to drop working out because someone else mocked you for lifting weights? Are you going to jump into another career because someone looks down upon that line of work? Or are you going to stay committed to what you want to do with your life?

Rejection isn't bad...seeing rejection as something bad because your friends say so is bad. Not trying is bad. Your friends see rejection as bad because they see putting their pride on the line as too risky, and therefore write off approaching altogether as bad to save themselves from being put in the same position they have you in right now - from being laughed at. Of course you want results, and you will get them eventually, but approaching has much more to with the person you become as a result of what you put yourself through in the process than it has to do with "batting percentages", which is how your friends view it.
 

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logicallefty said:
Reply to married AFC: "Tell ya what.. In 10 years if you are still married to (AFC wife) then I will let you grill me with any question like that you want"

Reply to unmarried AFC: "My methods works well for me right now. How is your method of getting women going for you?"

what about ugly girls in relationships.

theyre usually the ones that say **** like t hat. especially this ugly girl that has a long distance relationship and says sht like that to me?

and guys that say sht like "you ****ed up hard" , lol obv i dont care, im not going to stop, but it would be nice to know how to reply to these fvckers
 

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Between_The_Lines said:
It's not very different than any other path in life.

Are you going to drop working out because someone else mocked you for lifting weights? Are you going to jump into another career because someone looks down upon that line of work? Or are you going to stay committed to what you want to do with your life?

Rejection isn't bad...seeing rejection as something bad because your friends say so is bad. Not trying is bad. Your friends see rejection as bad because they see putting their pride on the line as too risky, and therefore write off approaching altogether as bad to save themselves from being put in the same position they have you in right now - from being laughed at. Of course you want results, and you will get them eventually, but approaching has much more to with the person you become as a result of what you put yourself through in the process than it has to do with "batting percentages", which is how your friends view it.
nicely put man , cheers.
 

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As long as you get anxious and want to explain yourself, the problem is in you.
Don't try to think you're someone you're not, just laugh with your friend. Unless he is a super nerd who really expects an answer and will ruin the fun.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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