"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AFCs that say "you approached all these girls and u still aint got a girl"

void957

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how do u reply to these guys?

they see rejection as something bad

also

what differentiates the DJ from AFCS? because truth is, they get girls too, so how do you express this?


thanks man
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Might not be a good answer, but Hitler didn't control Germany without trying.
 

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As long as you're approaching, you have a chance. You always need to take action. Women usually don't fall into a man's lap.
 

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void957 said:
what differentiates the DJ from AFCS? because truth is, they get girls too, so how do you express this?
By realizing you are the great catch.
 

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Reply to married AFC: "Tell ya what.. In 10 years if you are still married to (AFC wife) then I will let you grill me with any question like that you want"

Reply to unmarried AFC: "My methods works well for me right now. How is your method of getting women going for you?"
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It's not very different than any other path in life.

Are you going to drop working out because someone else mocked you for lifting weights? Are you going to jump into another career because someone looks down upon that line of work? Or are you going to stay committed to what you want to do with your life?

Rejection isn't bad...seeing rejection as something bad because your friends say so is bad. Not trying is bad. Your friends see rejection as bad because they see putting their pride on the line as too risky, and therefore write off approaching altogether as bad to save themselves from being put in the same position they have you in right now - from being laughed at. Of course you want results, and you will get them eventually, but approaching has much more to with the person you become as a result of what you put yourself through in the process than it has to do with "batting percentages", which is how your friends view it.
 

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logicallefty said:
Reply to married AFC: "Tell ya what.. In 10 years if you are still married to (AFC wife) then I will let you grill me with any question like that you want"

Reply to unmarried AFC: "My methods works well for me right now. How is your method of getting women going for you?"

what about ugly girls in relationships.

theyre usually the ones that say **** like t hat. especially this ugly girl that has a long distance relationship and says sht like that to me?

and guys that say sht like "you ****ed up hard" , lol obv i dont care, im not going to stop, but it would be nice to know how to reply to these fvckers
 

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Between_The_Lines said:
It's not very different than any other path in life.

Are you going to drop working out because someone else mocked you for lifting weights? Are you going to jump into another career because someone looks down upon that line of work? Or are you going to stay committed to what you want to do with your life?

Rejection isn't bad...seeing rejection as something bad because your friends say so is bad. Not trying is bad. Your friends see rejection as bad because they see putting their pride on the line as too risky, and therefore write off approaching altogether as bad to save themselves from being put in the same position they have you in right now - from being laughed at. Of course you want results, and you will get them eventually, but approaching has much more to with the person you become as a result of what you put yourself through in the process than it has to do with "batting percentages", which is how your friends view it.
nicely put man , cheers.
 

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As long as you get anxious and want to explain yourself, the problem is in you.
Don't try to think you're someone you're not, just laugh with your friend. Unless he is a super nerd who really expects an answer and will ruin the fun.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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