"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Basically it's not smart to view yourself, as a beginning Don Juan, as an "average frustrated chump".

The labels you accept for yourself determine the course of your evolution. If you believe you ARE an AFC, that's what you'll become more of.

It's much saner to view yourself as a 'DJ-to-be'. It's also more compassionate towards the rest of the world, populated by men who will all one day (if you believe in reincarnation and/or cultural progress) become high quality men.

When you join this forum, you get promoted to a "Don Juan". You don't get demoted to an "AFC". That is reminiscent of this truth.

I feel we should really drop this terminology altogether. Looking at yourself or others as an AFC is really not helpful. You instantly feel more compassionate towards the scores of poor men out there when you see them as Don Juan's to be. After all, this is really a movement towards becoming better men. Some men have awoken to this call. Many have not. But one day, all will have.

We are all becoming.

be·com·ing adjective \-ˈkə-miŋ\
: causing someone to look attractive : having a flattering or attractive effect
: suitable or appropriate for a particular person or in a certain situation
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dryden said:
Basically it's not smart to view yourself, as a beginning Don Juan, as an "average frustrated chump".

The labels you accept for yourself determine the course of your evolution. If you believe you ARE an AFC, that's what you'll become more of.

It's much saner to view yourself as a 'DJ-to-be'. It's also more compassionate towards the rest of the world, populated by men who will all one day (if you believe in reincarnation and/or cultural progress) become high quality men.

When you join this forum, you get promoted to a "Don Juan". You don't get demoted to an "AFC". That is reminiscent of this truth.

I feel we should really drop this terminology altogether. Looking at yourself or others as an AFC is really not helpful. You instantly feel more compassionate towards the scores of poor men out there when you see them as Don Juan's to be. After all, this is really a movement towards becoming better men. Some men have awoken to this call. Many have not. But one day, all will have.

We are all becoming.

be·com·ing adjective \-ˈkə-miŋ\
: causing someone to look attractive : having a flattering or attractive effect
: suitable or appropriate for a particular person or in a certain situation
Dryden is an AFC. :D

The Simple Man is a Don Juan. :D

Am I doing it right?
 

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Dryden said:
When you join this forum, you get promoted to a "Don Juan". You don't get demoted to an "AFC". That is reminiscent of this truth.
There is not much more to say! What a brilliant insight man!

Absolutely spot on! Congratulations, and thank you for this!
 

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The Simple Man said:
Dryden is an AFC. :D

The Simple Man is a Don Juan. :D

Am I doing it right?
:D

Almost there! :p

Lotus Effect said:
There is not much more to say! What a brilliant insight man!

Absolutely spot on! Congratulations, and thank you for this!
Thanks!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This is a good mindset, but I think it needs to be taken even further.

Not only should men not view themselves as AFC's but they should also lower their view of women. Half the problems men face come from over-inflating a woman's value.. much more so than under stating their own value.

Many men will see themselves as "normal" then view any woman over a HB7 as a "prize" they must "improve themselves" to win. That's a loser mindset right there --> The idea that you are flawed by default while women are perfect by default. It doesn't help that all the desperate faggots who beg for female approval only inflate a woman's ego MORE. Thus creating a situation where most men don't feel "worthy" of most women. Its f*cking stupid.

The pedestal continues to be the biggest problem for modern men. If the average HB9 has a value of 10 bucks.. most men see her as having a value of 50 bucks. This needs to stop and in needs to stop immediately.
 
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