"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Basically it's not smart to view yourself, as a beginning Don Juan, as an "average frustrated chump".

The labels you accept for yourself determine the course of your evolution. If you believe you ARE an AFC, that's what you'll become more of.

It's much saner to view yourself as a 'DJ-to-be'. It's also more compassionate towards the rest of the world, populated by men who will all one day (if you believe in reincarnation and/or cultural progress) become high quality men.

When you join this forum, you get promoted to a "Don Juan". You don't get demoted to an "AFC". That is reminiscent of this truth.

I feel we should really drop this terminology altogether. Looking at yourself or others as an AFC is really not helpful. You instantly feel more compassionate towards the scores of poor men out there when you see them as Don Juan's to be. After all, this is really a movement towards becoming better men. Some men have awoken to this call. Many have not. But one day, all will have.

We are all becoming.

be·com·ing adjective \-ˈkə-miŋ\
: causing someone to look attractive : having a flattering or attractive effect
: suitable or appropriate for a particular person or in a certain situation
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dryden said:
Basically it's not smart to view yourself, as a beginning Don Juan, as an "average frustrated chump".

The labels you accept for yourself determine the course of your evolution. If you believe you ARE an AFC, that's what you'll become more of.

It's much saner to view yourself as a 'DJ-to-be'. It's also more compassionate towards the rest of the world, populated by men who will all one day (if you believe in reincarnation and/or cultural progress) become high quality men.

When you join this forum, you get promoted to a "Don Juan". You don't get demoted to an "AFC". That is reminiscent of this truth.

I feel we should really drop this terminology altogether. Looking at yourself or others as an AFC is really not helpful. You instantly feel more compassionate towards the scores of poor men out there when you see them as Don Juan's to be. After all, this is really a movement towards becoming better men. Some men have awoken to this call. Many have not. But one day, all will have.

We are all becoming.

be·com·ing adjective \-ˈkə-miŋ\
: causing someone to look attractive : having a flattering or attractive effect
: suitable or appropriate for a particular person or in a certain situation
Dryden is an AFC. :D

The Simple Man is a Don Juan. :D

Am I doing it right?
 

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Dryden said:
When you join this forum, you get promoted to a "Don Juan". You don't get demoted to an "AFC". That is reminiscent of this truth.
There is not much more to say! What a brilliant insight man!

Absolutely spot on! Congratulations, and thank you for this!
 

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The Simple Man said:
Dryden is an AFC. :D

The Simple Man is a Don Juan. :D

Am I doing it right?
:D

Almost there! :p

Lotus Effect said:
There is not much more to say! What a brilliant insight man!

Absolutely spot on! Congratulations, and thank you for this!
Thanks!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This is a good mindset, but I think it needs to be taken even further.

Not only should men not view themselves as AFC's but they should also lower their view of women. Half the problems men face come from over-inflating a woman's value.. much more so than under stating their own value.

Many men will see themselves as "normal" then view any woman over a HB7 as a "prize" they must "improve themselves" to win. That's a loser mindset right there --> The idea that you are flawed by default while women are perfect by default. It doesn't help that all the desperate faggots who beg for female approval only inflate a woman's ego MORE. Thus creating a situation where most men don't feel "worthy" of most women. Its f*cking stupid.

The pedestal continues to be the biggest problem for modern men. If the average HB9 has a value of 10 bucks.. most men see her as having a value of 50 bucks. This needs to stop and in needs to stop immediately.
 
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