Once again i observed silimar behavior where the girl falls for a guy she's not that into only because he smooches her with hugs and spends all his time with her. On one hand the dude knew how to start making moves, but then again he kept spending all his time with her. I suppose i'm somehow confused as i know i would never be able to waste all my time like that -- then again maybe it's why i'm still single. It appears that to get most girls you have to have mix of AFC/DJ qualities. On one hand not to be afraid to show emotions and making physical moves on teh other you still have to be AFC with "i'm not leaving you even for a moment" stuff.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
AFC/DJ behavior
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- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
listen being a DJ isnt about not showing affection or "SMOOCHING"
its about keeping ur Cajones
its about keeping ur Cajones
Maybe because they like a man who is not a cold turned off person who spends all his time wondering if his behaviour was DJ. DJ is whatever you make it too, when you become more natural you will discover you lean back more towards the AFC-behaviour, but you still respect yourself and don't let people walk over you.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.