Once again i observed silimar behavior where the girl falls for a guy she's not that into only because he smooches her with hugs and spends all his time with her. On one hand the dude knew how to start making moves, but then again he kept spending all his time with her. I suppose i'm somehow confused as i know i would never be able to waste all my time like that -- then again maybe it's why i'm still single. It appears that to get most girls you have to have mix of AFC/DJ qualities. On one hand not to be afraid to show emotions and making physical moves on teh other you still have to be AFC with "i'm not leaving you even for a moment" stuff.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
AFC/DJ behavior
- Thread starter gruby
- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
listen being a DJ isnt about not showing affection or "SMOOCHING"
its about keeping ur Cajones
its about keeping ur Cajones
Maybe because they like a man who is not a cold turned off person who spends all his time wondering if his behaviour was DJ. DJ is whatever you make it too, when you become more natural you will discover you lean back more towards the AFC-behaviour, but you still respect yourself and don't let people walk over you.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.