"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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PapiChulo

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I know that from time to time even the strongest of us may be prone to AFC behavior. But what kinda percentage of guys actually do qualify as AFC? In other words how prevalent is this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Interesting question.

Unfortunately I don't think any data has been gathered on this matter. For one reason, it's difficult to when one is an AFC, vs. showing a single AFC act. There are also different levels of being an AFC. Therefore there needs to be a cut off point between normal dude and AFC. I'd also say that age plays a big factor if one is an AFC or not.
 

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Walk down the street and make eye contact with every male you see. The ones that hold eye contact and nod are the alphas, the ones that look away are AFCs.
My theory is that about 80% of males are AFCs
 

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From my experiences and all the people ive come across in my life, I can count on one hand the amount of guys are are TRUE natural alphas. Im going to say AT LEAST 90% of all men are AFC or have AFC traits.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Almost all of America. When you start focusing on how you are too old to date certain ages of girls you are an American. When you like mothers you are an American. When you change diapers on a daily basis you are an American. When your wife doesn't cook for you, you are an American. When the apex of your life was college you are an American. Need I go on?
 

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BigJimbo said:
Almost all of America. When you start focusing on how you are too old to date certain ages of girls you are an American. When you like mothers you are an American. When you change diapers on a daily basis you are an American. When your wife doesn't cook for you, you are an American. When the apex of your life was college you are an American. Need I go on?
+1 right there mah man
 

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r0cky said:
Walk down the street and make eye contact with every male you see. The ones that hold eye contact and nod are the alphas, the ones that look away are AFCs.
My theory is that about 80% of males are AFCs
this is so gay.
 

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r0cky said:
Walk down the street and make eye contact with every male you see. The ones that hold eye contact and nod are the alphas, the ones that look away are AFCs.
My theory is that about 80% of males are AFCs

Did that today to test out the theory - it holds true to some degree.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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99.999999% are AFCs
Does that mean women are only really attracted to 0.000001% of the men?

Walk down the street and make eye contact with every male you see. The ones that hold eye contact and nod are the alphas, the ones that look away are AFCs.
I don't think that is true. Maybe the alpha just doesn't want to bother with looking at you, or nodding, or interacting with you at all. Maybe he has other things on his mind.
 

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Well, let's look at the stats.

The average American man has sex with 7 women in his life. BUT, the top 15% have sex with 15 women or more. So, this means that 100 men have sex with 700 women (I know there's overlap but it's not important for our case). Now, take out the Alphas and you have 85 men sleeping with 475 women (the actual number is probably less), or 5-6 women on average.

So...if the AFC loses his virginity at 18, and gets married at thirty that means 85% OF MEN ARE SLEEPING WITH ONE WOMEN EVERY TWO YEARS AT MOST.

Dues that answer your question?
 
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I have a theory that the number of AFCs is higher in the city.

My thinking is: more media, more RNB music= more social conditioning for males.

In the country, less media. Less focus on mainstream music. I.e less social conditioning.

Also I have seen more "players" about in the country than in the city. Plus its all about being "one" with nature.

PS. i do like RNB but i just ignore the lyrics.
 

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r0cky said:
Walk down the street and make eye contact with every male you see. The ones that hold eye contact and nod are the alphas, the ones that look away are AFCs.
My theory is that about 80% of males are AFCs

LOL DO THIS TO THE WRONG GUY AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS
 

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Aazman said:
I have a theory that the number of AFCs is higher in the city.

My thinking is: more media, more RNB music= more social conditioning for males.

In the country, less media. Less focus on mainstream music. I.e less social conditioning.

Also I have seen more "players" about in the country than in the city. Plus its all about being "one" with nature.

PS. i do like RNB but i just ignore the lyrics.
Interesting theory. But you could make the argument that there is more social conditioning in the country. People in the country tend to be more conservative and traditional than people in the city. They are more rigid and less accepting of many different things. The countryside is far more homogeneous and less diverse than the city i.e. more people are doing the same thing.

While in a city, you are confronted with a huge variety of different viewpoints. In the countryside, you only get one or two. You only have one frame of reference, so you are actually less aware of your conditioning. In cities you tend to have a very large hodgepodge of different people so you can see what's out there and make a better informed decision, so to speak.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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