"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AFC and still get laid? (story)

sav

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Hey,

A quick background: I have multiple girls im working but there's this one girl that i have one-i-tis for only when im around her.. we see eachother 3 or 4 times a week and im a complete AFC around her.. and her alone.. not with any other girl.. this one just makes me melt.

Now, the problem is when i met her she had a boyfriend.. subsiquently they broke up, and she got another boyfriend (skipping me entirely) now the funny thing is, we have sex, we fool around but the thing is im a complete AFC around her and there's NOTHING i can do about it..

so i think that is why she doesnt see me as boyfriend material even though i have so much going for me.. im done school, i work and make about 5x what an average person my age makes, i can give her the world... but once agian it proves that AFC's finish last in the bigger scheme of things.. now why would she fool around with me if she has other and better things going for her? i just dont understand this girl..

if i had been friendzoned i would be getting NO action from her.. i guess if i want something more then just this twisted relationship we have, i have to cut her off and work on my other girls..

willing to listen to suggestions.... and thanks in advance.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Next her. You're nothing to her, you just happened to be AFC'd by a sl*t. Do you buy her stuff? Give her money? Could be reasons why she keeps you around.

Read the DJ Bible. So many guys come her wanting to know how to un-AFC themselves. It doesn't work that way. You've already blow it with this chick. She will never take you seriously.
 

sav

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Pappadapolis said:
Next her. You're nothing to her, you just happened to be AFC'd by a sl*t. Do you buy her stuff? Give her money? Could be reasons why she keeps you around.

Read the DJ Bible. So many guys come her wanting to know how to un-AFC themselves. It doesn't work that way. You've already blow it with this chick. She will never take you seriously.

bro, i've read the bible, and im not afc with any other girl..

just this one.. and yeah you are right... i dont give her money, i buy her things for her little things for her birthday and xmas and thats about all... but i agree with you that i blew it with this one... lets see how well she lasts without me.. heh..

thx, and more advice is appreciated... im not here to learn how to un-afc myself btw, i went through that stage already and i have read the bible and it helped me out a lot about 2 years ago when i first came on this site.
 

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Kev07 said:
what's wrong with having a FB?

its all in what you want out of a relationship, and i want more then just being FB's... heh..

i can have sex with a number of other girls.. thats not the issue...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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dynamicallyidle

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sav said:
Hey,

A quick background: I have multiple girls im working but there's this one girl that i have one-i-tis for only when im around her.. we see eachother 3 or 4 times a week and im a complete AFC around her.. and her alone.. not with any other girl.. this one just makes me melt.

Now, the problem is when i met her she had a boyfriend.. subsiquently they broke up, and she got another boyfriend (skipping me entirely) now the funny thing is, we have sex, we fool around but the thing is im a complete AFC around her and there's NOTHING i can do about it..

so i think that is why she doesnt see me as boyfriend material even though i have so much going for me.. im done school, i work and make about 5x what an average person my age makes, i can give her the world... but once agian it proves that AFC's finish last in the bigger scheme of things.. now why would she fool around with me if she has other and better things going for her? i just dont understand this girl..

if i had been friendzoned i would be getting NO action from her.. i guess if i want something more then just this twisted relationship we have, i have to cut her off and work on my other girls..

willing to listen to suggestions.... and thanks in advance.
Yeah, you can be an AFC and get laid. Being NOT AFC improves your odds of getting a quality lay though.
 
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