"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Aerobic + Weights

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I need some advice here guys. Im 17, Im a lean guy 5'8 and 142 lbs i dont remember my body fat % but it has been really low forever. Im currently lifting weights and trying to gain around 10-20 lbs but I'm also parcticing for long distance track which means that I run around 4-5 miles 5 days a week and the other 2 days I jump rope. I read that alot of cardio burns muscle too.

So is it possible to gain muscle mass with so much cardio and still not lose my speed?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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if you're practicing for distance running, stick with that. you won't be able to add much mass -- lift once or twice a week if you like, and yank the jump rope unless it's part of your training. you'll probably do better lifting in the offseason and running a bit less then.
 

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yeah listen to throttle no point in trying to add muscle with all the running you do
 

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Thanks for the reply
but what if I still lift... (I have for the past 6 weeks and I see results) would I still gain mass just slower??
Cause i dont want to waste my time, but I can compromise I dont have to gain 5 pounds in a month, 2-3 would be fine too.
 

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if it's working for you, go for it. make sure the weights keep moving up (ignore how much weight you gain, this is unreliable), and make sure you're timing yourself when you run. if either one starts to move backwards, you probably either need to eat and/or rest more.

BTW--contrary to your initial impression, cardio doesn't "burn muscle" at least not with the results you fear. a great explanation (and terrible background graphic):

http://www.oaktrees.org/fitness/burnMuscle2.html

let's face it, if you want to run long distances competitively you're going to be relatively skinny. lifting isn't a waste of time--esp. if you're seeing results--but you're talking about working at the margins.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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