"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Calibuck

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I took this girl out 33 a few nights ago and asked her out for another date. She accepted but since the first date she's pretty much stopped texting me. I did sound a little eager after the first date but haven't contact her in 3 days.

I'm going to setup in stone the 2nd date later this week but should i text her something in between? Im pretty sure shes also seeing other guys.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mr Wright

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First thing, if she hasn't text you after the date, you're not in the strongest position. A strong rule of thumb is that girls who are interested text you first to say they had a good time etc, they probably won't ask you out themselves but it's their way of inviting you to ask them out again.

Since she has agreed to a second date, I would just go in assuming that she's coming and that way anything she does to the contrary is a sign of disinterest. Send her text inviting her out and just remember the proof is always in the pudding.
 

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"Great talking to you, I'll see you [whatever day] at [whatever place], but i gotta run! Bye."

Ruler now starting to sound like Corey Wayne too ;) But it's true.
 

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Never analyze women you are not sleeping with.

There are two types of women:

1. Women you're sleeping with
2. Women you're not

If she falls into #2 then nothing she does really matters until she falls into #1. As a man your only job is to flirt with women you want to sleep with. After such flirting, the woman should then FOLLOW YOUR LEAD until you end up in bed with her. If the woman does not follow your lead she is forgotten quickly and replaced by someone who does. No need to analyze. Not worth it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Calibuck

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Thanks Experts

I just changed my photo on Tinder, Do you think this will help?
 
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