"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Calibuck

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I took this girl out 33 a few nights ago and asked her out for another date. She accepted but since the first date she's pretty much stopped texting me. I did sound a little eager after the first date but haven't contact her in 3 days.

I'm going to setup in stone the 2nd date later this week but should i text her something in between? Im pretty sure shes also seeing other guys.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Mr Wright

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First thing, if she hasn't text you after the date, you're not in the strongest position. A strong rule of thumb is that girls who are interested text you first to say they had a good time etc, they probably won't ask you out themselves but it's their way of inviting you to ask them out again.

Since she has agreed to a second date, I would just go in assuming that she's coming and that way anything she does to the contrary is a sign of disinterest. Send her text inviting her out and just remember the proof is always in the pudding.
 

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"Great talking to you, I'll see you [whatever day] at [whatever place], but i gotta run! Bye."

Ruler now starting to sound like Corey Wayne too ;) But it's true.
 

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Never analyze women you are not sleeping with.

There are two types of women:

1. Women you're sleeping with
2. Women you're not

If she falls into #2 then nothing she does really matters until she falls into #1. As a man your only job is to flirt with women you want to sleep with. After such flirting, the woman should then FOLLOW YOUR LEAD until you end up in bed with her. If the woman does not follow your lead she is forgotten quickly and replaced by someone who does. No need to analyze. Not worth it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Calibuck

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Thanks Experts

I just changed my photo on Tinder, Do you think this will help?
 
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