So this girl I don't understand... we hooked up b/c i think she was jealous i was sorta seeing this girl. It was a good hookup and she's a big flirt but we haven't hooked up since, maybe 3 + weeks. The other night i was coming back from the club and didn't wanna go home and she said i could sleep at her house but on her couch in her room....wtf is that about? I mean she calls me/Aol's me/etc. I've been a douche to her and surprisingly that works and do the kinda ignoring her thing but I don't get why she won't hookup again ??? Help on this one guys......
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Advice on this weirrrrrrrd chick....
- Thread starter godjwood
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The_Lifter
Don Juan
Perhaps she was being coy, some kind of ASD. She's not going to say "Oh yeah, lets go to my place and fu.ck then." You know how it goes, once you're in, you're in.
Further, perhaps you didn't close the deal properly last time you nobbed her and made her feel used.
Further, perhaps you didn't close the deal properly last time you nobbed her and made her feel used.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
uhmm dude, you missed your booty call.
did you really think she was gonna make you sleep on the couch all by yourself in the same room with her?
did you really think she was gonna make you sleep on the couch all by yourself in the same room with her?
biker_gixxer
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The other night i was coming back from the club and didn't wanna go home and she said i could sleep at her house but on her couch in her room....wtf is that about?
Maybe she was dead asleep and not in the mood. Maybe it was that time of month or she had some other women problems. Don't beat yourself up over it.
I've been a douche to her and surprisingly that works and do the kinda ignoring her thing but I don't get why she won't hookup again ???
Maybe you weren't good the first time around...are you a minute man? Look back at the things you good have done wrong.
Maybe she was dead asleep and not in the mood. Maybe it was that time of month or she had some other women problems. Don't beat yourself up over it.
I've been a douche to her and surprisingly that works and do the kinda ignoring her thing but I don't get why she won't hookup again ???
Maybe you weren't good the first time around...are you a minute man? Look back at the things you good have done wrong.
I don't see anything wrong here, unless she considers herself a slut its natural for a chick friend to tell you you can sleep over but not in the same bed, unless she's already horny for you. Going up to her room is half the work, the other half is getting her hot once you're there and handle your busimess.
Ya when i called she was asleep so i didn't get the booty call.
Today we hungout and that went well. She still seems a little reserved. Maybe she's lost interest? Dunno? I mean i gave her a massage and we flirted and so i dunno. My roommate suggests just not putting in any effort into her letting her come to me and just stay busy w/other chicks so i won't focus myself on her and give her a lot of attention which i do a lot w/o even realizing it.
Today we hungout and that went well. She still seems a little reserved. Maybe she's lost interest? Dunno? I mean i gave her a massage and we flirted and so i dunno. My roommate suggests just not putting in any effort into her letting her come to me and just stay busy w/other chicks so i won't focus myself on her and give her a lot of attention which i do a lot w/o even realizing it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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I would listen to your friend...