So this girl I don't understand... we hooked up b/c i think she was jealous i was sorta seeing this girl. It was a good hookup and she's a big flirt but we haven't hooked up since, maybe 3 + weeks. The other night i was coming back from the club and didn't wanna go home and she said i could sleep at her house but on her couch in her room....wtf is that about? I mean she calls me/Aol's me/etc. I've been a douche to her and surprisingly that works and do the kinda ignoring her thing but I don't get why she won't hookup again ??? Help on this one guys......
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Advice on this weirrrrrrrd chick....
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The_Lifter
Don Juan
Perhaps she was being coy, some kind of ASD. She's not going to say "Oh yeah, lets go to my place and fu.ck then." You know how it goes, once you're in, you're in.
Further, perhaps you didn't close the deal properly last time you nobbed her and made her feel used.
Further, perhaps you didn't close the deal properly last time you nobbed her and made her feel used.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
uhmm dude, you missed your booty call.
did you really think she was gonna make you sleep on the couch all by yourself in the same room with her?
did you really think she was gonna make you sleep on the couch all by yourself in the same room with her?
biker_gixxer
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The other night i was coming back from the club and didn't wanna go home and she said i could sleep at her house but on her couch in her room....wtf is that about?
Maybe she was dead asleep and not in the mood. Maybe it was that time of month or she had some other women problems. Don't beat yourself up over it.
I've been a douche to her and surprisingly that works and do the kinda ignoring her thing but I don't get why she won't hookup again ???
Maybe you weren't good the first time around...are you a minute man? Look back at the things you good have done wrong.
Maybe she was dead asleep and not in the mood. Maybe it was that time of month or she had some other women problems. Don't beat yourself up over it.
I've been a douche to her and surprisingly that works and do the kinda ignoring her thing but I don't get why she won't hookup again ???
Maybe you weren't good the first time around...are you a minute man? Look back at the things you good have done wrong.
I don't see anything wrong here, unless she considers herself a slut its natural for a chick friend to tell you you can sleep over but not in the same bed, unless she's already horny for you. Going up to her room is half the work, the other half is getting her hot once you're there and handle your busimess.
Ya when i called she was asleep so i didn't get the booty call.
Today we hungout and that went well. She still seems a little reserved. Maybe she's lost interest? Dunno? I mean i gave her a massage and we flirted and so i dunno. My roommate suggests just not putting in any effort into her letting her come to me and just stay busy w/other chicks so i won't focus myself on her and give her a lot of attention which i do a lot w/o even realizing it.
Today we hungout and that went well. She still seems a little reserved. Maybe she's lost interest? Dunno? I mean i gave her a massage and we flirted and so i dunno. My roommate suggests just not putting in any effort into her letting her come to me and just stay busy w/other chicks so i won't focus myself on her and give her a lot of attention which i do a lot w/o even realizing it.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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I would listen to your friend...