So this girl I don't understand... we hooked up b/c i think she was jealous i was sorta seeing this girl. It was a good hookup and she's a big flirt but we haven't hooked up since, maybe 3 + weeks. The other night i was coming back from the club and didn't wanna go home and she said i could sleep at her house but on her couch in her room....wtf is that about? I mean she calls me/Aol's me/etc. I've been a douche to her and surprisingly that works and do the kinda ignoring her thing but I don't get why she won't hookup again ??? Help on this one guys......
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Advice on this weirrrrrrrd chick....
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The_Lifter
Don Juan
Perhaps she was being coy, some kind of ASD. She's not going to say "Oh yeah, lets go to my place and fu.ck then." You know how it goes, once you're in, you're in.
Further, perhaps you didn't close the deal properly last time you nobbed her and made her feel used.
Further, perhaps you didn't close the deal properly last time you nobbed her and made her feel used.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
uhmm dude, you missed your booty call.
did you really think she was gonna make you sleep on the couch all by yourself in the same room with her?
did you really think she was gonna make you sleep on the couch all by yourself in the same room with her?
biker_gixxer
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The other night i was coming back from the club and didn't wanna go home and she said i could sleep at her house but on her couch in her room....wtf is that about?
Maybe she was dead asleep and not in the mood. Maybe it was that time of month or she had some other women problems. Don't beat yourself up over it.
I've been a douche to her and surprisingly that works and do the kinda ignoring her thing but I don't get why she won't hookup again ???
Maybe you weren't good the first time around...are you a minute man? Look back at the things you good have done wrong.
Maybe she was dead asleep and not in the mood. Maybe it was that time of month or she had some other women problems. Don't beat yourself up over it.
I've been a douche to her and surprisingly that works and do the kinda ignoring her thing but I don't get why she won't hookup again ???
Maybe you weren't good the first time around...are you a minute man? Look back at the things you good have done wrong.
I don't see anything wrong here, unless she considers herself a slut its natural for a chick friend to tell you you can sleep over but not in the same bed, unless she's already horny for you. Going up to her room is half the work, the other half is getting her hot once you're there and handle your busimess.
Ya when i called she was asleep so i didn't get the booty call.
Today we hungout and that went well. She still seems a little reserved. Maybe she's lost interest? Dunno? I mean i gave her a massage and we flirted and so i dunno. My roommate suggests just not putting in any effort into her letting her come to me and just stay busy w/other chicks so i won't focus myself on her and give her a lot of attention which i do a lot w/o even realizing it.
Today we hungout and that went well. She still seems a little reserved. Maybe she's lost interest? Dunno? I mean i gave her a massage and we flirted and so i dunno. My roommate suggests just not putting in any effort into her letting her come to me and just stay busy w/other chicks so i won't focus myself on her and give her a lot of attention which i do a lot w/o even realizing it.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
biker_gixxer
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I would listen to your friend...