"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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advice on ms. flake

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whatup boys, need some advice here...

the quick and dirty:

girl in my class, gives me looks, whatever, get her number, send her a text on a friday, she responds but says she's busy, im like eh whatever, a week later on friday i text her again, no response. strike 2. then a week later, over T-giving, i text her asking if she's in the area ( i think she lives somewhat near me), no response. so im like eh, i can take a hint....NEXT


then, after class the other day, on my way out she comes up and starts talking to me..WTF?? should i CALL as opposed to TEXT? lol... i have no idea.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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katatonia

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Just because she's talking to you it does not mean she's interested. She just liked the attention you gave her.
 

DonGorgon

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young cute girls have many men to choose from and often they have to ignore many or the guys chasing or they will not have time to even breath.. its 50% and the skill once you get lucky enough to get a response.
 

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Wait till she asks you out now. You have offered on three occasssions, now its her turn.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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women haze

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Cinamon said:
Wait till she asks you out now. You have offered on three occasssions, now its her turn.
Bad Advice:down: because she is not going to call him...Men always make the first move.
 
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sooo..... yes or no on asking her out in person when i see her? or at least asking her where she stands / what she wants? i mean, at what point does it become creepy/off-putting? but i feel like if she doesnt want anything to do with me, she wouldnt come up and talk to me, right? is she pretty much telling me she's interested, but come stronger/differently????
 

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princeofpersia420 said:
sooo..... yes or no on asking her out in person when i see her? or at least asking her where she stands / what she wants? i mean, at what point does it become creepy/off-putting? but i feel like if she doesnt want anything to do with me, she wouldnt come up and talk to me, right? is she pretty much telling me she's interested, but come stronger/differently????
She came to to talk to you because she's being nice.

It's becoming creepy/off-putting already because you aren't even dating this girl and you're already over-thinking about this.

Who cares how she feels about you. That's total AFC thinking.

Don't hesitate, be a man and ask her out in person.
 
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schoolboy, truth, thats what i needed to hear. if she rejects me in person, that aint a hint, thats the truth.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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women haze said:
Bad Advice:down: because she is not going to call him...Men always make the first move.
Men dont always make the first move, plenty of girls are happy to pursue guys. If someone asked me out a coupleof times and I genuinly couldnt make it, I know it would be down to me to ask them out the next time if i liked them.
 
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but cinamon, she's really shy and says she "doesn't get out much"....despite being super cute....could this affect things? ah **** it, im gonna ask her next time i see her...some girls are too cute to care about this **** with
 

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The bigger problem here is why are you trying to make plans with her on a FRIDAY NIGHT. You should have other things to do. Now she knows you have absolutly nothing going on on party nights.
 

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I agree with sitting back, and if/when she calls, cool... nail it down. If not (and she probably wont), theres no sense in "devaluing yourself" by calling again. Go spin plates. Actions speak louder than words (if she doesn't call, theres no interest).
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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