"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Advice on ex girlfriend

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First of all, let me just say what a fantastic forum this is. Can't believe I have onlyu just found it :up:

My girlfriend of two years met a bloke in a bar and exchanged numbers and chatted all weekend. She then when round to his house a couple of days later. She was open and honest about it and said that they were just friends and I shouldn't be concerned.

To be going round to a mans house that you didnt know 72 hours previous, aint right and I told her so.

Anyway, a week later she decides to call the relationship a day. Gave me the whole 'I love you but aren't in love with you' bull****, and that she will always care for me - yada, yada.

We met up a week later and she started crying and kissing me, before we slept together. Wasnt planned and I had a moment of weakness. Anyway she says that we cant get back together.

Unsuprisingly enough, her and this 'we are just friends bloke' are now an item. Looks like my gut feeling was correct. He aint the best looking man around and he seems like abit of a **** if I am being honest.

She told me that they were together and I replied with a 'I wish you both well' text.

We have been in little contact since the breakup and she keeps saying that she wants to be friends.

How do I play this one? We were first loves and ultimately I would like to be in the posistion where she wants me back - maybe its an ego thing, I dont know. Ultimately, I am fairly certain that I wouldnt take her back, but I would certainly like the option.

Not convinced her and this bloke will last that long, but you never know.

Cheers.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Its done bud. She's not interested. The best thing you can do is go no contact, but girls like that aren't worth having long term.
 
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So you want your ex to want you back? Do you know what that is? It's EXpected. Get it? It's normal, but for the good of you, just say **** it and leave her, she sucks, she dumped you for him, don't let that get to you. Good luck man, I know that feeling too well.
 
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Your goddamn lucky she didn't waste more of your time. Its a f^cking blessing. Run away, FAR AWAY. Then go bang some hot chicks.
 
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Go no contact and never look back to this b!tch.

If she leaves you so easy and fast because a man in the bar hooked her up then she doesn't love you enough.
And that doesn't mean something is wrong with you, this action is so pathetic from her side.

Never talk to her again, she left your relationship toooooooo easy for a random dude.
How old is she? I guess around 18-20, she can't be older, too immature for that.
Let her cry, let her beg, don't take her back and don't have sex with her.
Give her NOTHING. No respond on a text, not even a single "OK", don't answer if she calls.

Dissappear and find a worthy girl.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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He might not be good looking but he fvcks a lot better than you apparently...
 
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marmel75 said:
He might not be good looking but he fvcks a lot better than you apparently...
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Everything that's new is always more exciting, doesn't mean the new guy fvcks better.
 
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Som great advice here, much appreciated.

Since the breakup a month ago, I have really hit the gym and have got myself in much better shape, got a new job, and have just started hanging out with female friends again.

If I am honest, I am still bitter about what happened. I think one day she will see.
 
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Ric1000 said:
Som great advice here, much appreciated.

Since the breakup a month ago, I have really hit the gym and have got myself in much better shape, got a new job, and have just started hanging out with female friends again.

If I am honest, I am still bitter about what happened. I think one day she will see.
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get rid of that hope, it will eat you, she wont "see", her eyes are more wideopen than yours.
you really want someone who sh!t on you and rubbed your nose in it? do you know how desperate this sounds? that is probably one of the things that made you unnattractive to her
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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get rid of that hope, it will eat you, she wont "see", her eyes are more wideopen than yours.
you really want someone who sh!t on you and rubbed your nose in it? do you know how desperate this sounds? that is probably one of the things that made you unnattractive to her
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I concur, it's best to move on and forget about her. I guarantee you, Ric that she isn't posting on some female internet forum saying she hopes you see one day. She's living her life and that's what you need to be doing.
 
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