Advice on dating a cheater

[Romanemp22]

I don't like sharing, especially cars and girls. Even when I stumble upon taken girl, I make her dump her boyfriend to be with me. Who knows stds are out to much.

 

[Glassguy]

I don't like sharing, especially cars and girls. Even when I stumble upon taken girl, I make her dump her boyfriend to be with me. Who knows stds are out to much.

Then you just ghost her. Don't answer her texts, phone calls, nothing. Just vanish.

Leave her mind wondering. Why would you do this?

Cause fvck her. That's why.

Go find someone in your area to date

 

[RickTheToad]

I need some advice! Ive been dating a woman 'exclusively' for 6 months. Turns out she's been playing around with other men the entire time. Shes a great F and doesnt demand too much of my time and drives 3.5 hours every other week to spend a week at my place. She helps out with cleaning and laundry etc. Crazy I know. Should I confront her about what I found out or just let her keep doing her thing and I start dating other women on the side? Seems like an obvious answer but Im pissed and hurt by the betrayal and want to tell her to go F herself.

Expect nothing and you'll be fine. Cheaters usually cheat.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

The title of this thread and your... Willingness to allow this to continue, it speaks volumes.

YOU are a plate. For her. She's been spinning you this whole time, nothing more, or rather, youve been spinning yourself.

It sounds like you want to continue to spin, all good, but this isn't exclusivity material, or dating material, just keep spinning.

You ghost this chick, realistically, she won't care, you won't be spinning yourself for her past this point anyways, you know what's really going on and it killed the emotional attachment you had with her, this chick did you a favor.

Ghost or don't

 

[RickTheToad]

I don't like sharing, especially cars and girls. Even when I stumble upon taken girl, I make her dump her boyfriend to be with me. Who knows stds are out to much.

Caring too much for a plate.

 

[EyeBRollin]

naw it was and is clear. We've talked about the flags and why I was thinking shes Fing around. She emphatically says nothing is happening and makes lame excuses or explanations.

In that case, she is a low integrity bvtch and you need to drop her immediately.

 

[Romanemp22]

Then you just ghost her. Don't answer her texts, phone calls, nothing. Just vanish.

Leave her mind wondering. Why would you do this?

Cause fvck her. That's why.

Go find someone in your area to date

Sarcasm bro

 

[sid77]

The title of this thread and your... Willingness to allow this to continue, it speaks volumes.

YOU are a plate. For her. She's been spinning you this whole time, nothing more, or rather, youve been spinning yourself.

It sounds like you want to continue to spin, all good, but this isn't exclusivity material, or dating material, just keep spinning.

You ghost this chick, realistically, she won't care, you won't be spinning yourself for her past this point anyways, you know what's really going on and it killed the emotional attachment you had with her, this chick did you a favor.

Ghost or don't

All gold. The question im drilling into my head is...is she worth the having around...fvcking chronically every other week....cleaning my place and laundry...etc. We do head out for drinks and eats a few times those weeks but a small price to pay for what Im getting out of it. With time the emotional ties will die off and she'll just be a good time with a happy ending. It just stings and why I appreciate bouncing this garbage off and getting this communities feedback.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

In that case, she is a low integrity bvtch and you need to drop her immediately.

Does OP even know how weak he looks talking about that type of stuff to her??

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Does OP even know how weak he looks talking about that type of stuff to her??

He hasn't mentioned anything to her, he's only discussed it here on the forum.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

He hasn't mentioned anything to her, he's only discussed it here on the forum.

He said he was discussing the red flags with her and she denied them.

 

[sid77]

He said he was discussing the red flags with her and she denied them.

Just that there were red flags and my gut was telling me something was going on. Didnt discuss details or how I was seeing through her lies.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Just that there were red flags and my gut was telling me something was going on. Didnt discuss details or how I was seeing through her lies.

OK gotcha. I misinterpreted that part then.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Why are you dating a woman 3.5 hours away? Long distance is a waste of time

Why not..... i allways liked a weekend trip to a different location from time to time. You gotta see them as plates though, not as LTR.

 

[Kotaix]

Why not..... i allways liked a weekend trip to a different location from time to time. You gotta see them as plates though, not as LTR.

OP considers it to be a monogamous relatioship. That's when it becomes unhealthy.

 

[Black Widow Void]

OP,
If you honestly have to ask what to do here, you have absolutely no self-respect or dignity.

So, Homer... other than using his posting to achieve some quasi feeling of superiority... do you plan to offer the OP some actual advice? If you're not (or incapable) then I wonder if you might have a heavier problem than the OP.

 

[Black Widow Void]

If she's sleeping around (and has a history) then you need to wrap it.

If you can detach the emotion, then think of her like a plate. Enjoy it for what it is and with no expected outcome.
This might be easier said than done though. In that case, perhaps give her a parting grudge f&ck and send her walking.

 

[death_wish. .]

it sounds like you built up too much of an attachment already , and for that reason, i would break up and tell her things arent working out and you feel like yall should go your separate ways and actually mean it.keep it short and dont tlk about red flags

another thing you can do is tell her you want an open relationship(if you want to continue to ****), you already brought up the red flags , she will understand.

see the thing is, women are users they wont let anything go to waste,i realized this when my mother kept telling me to use girls for ''practice'' when i was ready to break up with them and instead keep them around , never understood why but its because men leave and women cheat, they are more worried about the offspring, they are not stupid they know full well who they should be with but they cant fight the electricity of a sexy , interesting , confident guy.
the reason cheating, disrespect or abuse starts is because they know they have you by the balls somehow , things like marriage, and kids or cohabitation make it harder to just up and leave without big consequences this is when you will notice the unacceptable behavior , so hold on to your independence as long as possible,.
in this case she picked up on the fact that you would entertain a 3.5 hour wait , that communicates you need her for sex pretty badly because your options are low,she has the upper hand she can cheat and get away with it
, doesnt mean you are a loser ...your reason for lack of options could be because of a bad location, busy etc anything. but it doesnt matter. whoever needs who most is the weaker one.

do you wanna keep smashin? or is the juice not worth the squeeze? its up to you.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

it sounds like you built up too much of an attachment already , and for that reason, i would break up and tell her things arent working out and you feel like yall should go your separate ways and actually mean it.keep it short and dont tlk about red flags

another thing you can do is tell her you want an open relationship(if you want to continue to ****), you already brought up the red flags , she will understand.

see the thing is, women are users they wont let anything go to waste,i realized this when my mother kept telling me to use girls for ''practice'' when i was ready to break up with them and instead keep them around , never understood why but its because men leave and women cheat, they are more worried about the offspring, they are not stupid they know full well who they should be with but they cant fight the electricity of a sexy , interesting , confident guy.
the reason cheating, disrespect or abuse starts is because they know they have you by the balls somehow , things like marriage, and kids or cohabitation make it harder to just up and leave without big consequences this is when you will notice the unacceptable behavior , so hold on to your independence as long as possible,.
in this case she picked up on the fact that you would entertain a 3.5 hour wait , that communicates you need her for sex pretty badly because your options are low,she has the upper hand she can cheat and get away with it
, doesnt mean you are a loser ...your reason for lack of options could be because of a bad location, busy etc anything. but it doesnt matter. whoever needs who most is the weaker one.

do you wanna keep smashin? or is the juice not worth the squeeze? its up to you.

He said she drives 3.5hrs to him. She drives this 3.5hrs then she cooks and cleans at his place.

 

[death_wish. .]

He said she drives 3.5hrs to him. She drives this 3.5hrs then she cooks and cleans at his place.

they all do it brother, thats no big deal, its a brainwash to make you believe you have a ''good one'' , if she really respects him or had a healthy attraction for him.
she wouldnt sneak behind his back on exclusive terms . imo. he can still keep her around for sex and cooking and cleaning because the driving 3.5 hours means high interest but for some reason she cant be loyal , i just wouldnt expect too much more than sex cooking and cleaning.