"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Powersurgeon

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Maybe you've read my posts before. I'm a new red pill aware, like many of us it was because of my divorce. I understand that we (red piller's) are not as much as it should, but there is this shyt that is bothering me a lot, maybe it should't , but is beyond my will. It's been almost 2 years since my divorce, my ex is by no means an HB, big nose, wrinkles, boob job, tummy tuck, that looks good with clothes on but naked are big red scars in the middle of the breasts and the underboob and belly and the striae from the pregnancy. Anyway, less than a year since I left, she "finds" this new guy via twitter that she describes as perfect, not exactly with that word but with her description of him: he's 6 y older, she's 37, with two teen kids, not rich but with money, a job that let's him travel a lot and with a lot of spare time to himself, extremely commited to my ex, even knowing that she's a cheater. Obviously this description doesn't fit with the stupidities that he writes on twitter. Anyway now, suddenly, she has moved closer to my old house in order to be eith her more time, he buys her things, he's with my children, etc.
My question is: do this looks suspicious to you, I mean, do you red piller's would have a LTR with this woman with a lot of red flags, with 3 little children, would you "invest" your time and money in such a problematic relationship? I don't know if this guy is just a blue piller who believes that "everybody can make a mistake and deserves a second chance" or if he is something to be aware of.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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dustmuffin

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Why do you care? I would shake the hand of the man that. Marrys my ex wife and tell him better you than me. You seem to be obsessing. Knock it off!
 

sodbuster

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I'll introduce you to my ex, she's single as far as I know..... She's dead to you, except for the kids, you need to reach my frame of mind.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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