"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Advice Needed...Dont flame.
- Thread starter Crissco
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
I do have other options with girls right now though.Driggs said:I think you should. If she at the very least, if NOTHING else is non flaky, that makes her head and tail better than most of these day old croissants... They are some flaky Shiite.
BeDJ
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You know how to prevent that from happening.Crissco said:What i dont want is the coming crashing down if we hypothetically speaking get back together, things are great for a bit, then boom, sh*t hits the fan.
It's not "Hey, I know what went wrong and I know how to fix it!" There is already an imaged burned into her memory about the relationship and you. Every wrongdoing, every mistake, every thing you do will comeback to - the break up. No matter how much of a Don Juan you are now or will be, that image she has about you and relationship is nearly impossible to disengage. Wouldn't it be a lot funner to start on a clean slate than reconstruct from ground zero? The good qualities you found in your Ex WILL be found in another women. You mental and emotional well being is far significant than any woman out there.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
Oh yeah I know that one. I always tell my friends, its easier to just find a new woman they try to fix the old one. Gotta take my own advice here. Since it applys to this too.BeDJ said:You know how to prevent that from happening.
It's not "Hey, I know what went wrong and I know how to fix it!" There is already an imaged burned into her memory about the relationship and you. Every wrongdoing, every mistake, every thing you do will comeback to - the break up. No matter how much of a Don Juan you are now or will be, that image she has about you and relationship is nearly impossible to disengage. Wouldn't it be a lot funner to start on a clean slate than reconstruct from ground zero? The good qualities you found in your Ex WILL be found in another women. You mental and emotional well being is far significant than any woman out there.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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+1, especially the part I highlighted. I know this from my own, and others' experiences. if you don't mind being her "*****", then go for it. But she has most certainly talked to other chicks about this, and you will pay, forever.VladPatton said:Don't do it, man. You're going to give her complete power in the relationship. Come to grips with the loss. Your first, basic, initial, primal, natural instinct to end the relationship when you did was correct. No need to second guess it now. That's just my opinion, I hope you do what is ultimately in your best interest. Good luck and keep us posted.
Spin some friggin' plates, that's one thing to learn here, and not forget. There's a time for honesty, a time for second chances (but not many), and a time to spin the platters. Spin 'em.