Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I do have other options with girls right now though.Driggs said:I think you should. If she at the very least, if NOTHING else is non flaky, that makes her head and tail better than most of these day old croissants... They are some flaky Shiite.
You know how to prevent that from happening.Crissco said:What i dont want is the coming crashing down if we hypothetically speaking get back together, things are great for a bit, then boom, sh*t hits the fan.
Oh yeah I know that one. I always tell my friends, its easier to just find a new woman they try to fix the old one. Gotta take my own advice here. Since it applys to this too.BeDJ said:You know how to prevent that from happening.
It's not "Hey, I know what went wrong and I know how to fix it!" There is already an imaged burned into her memory about the relationship and you. Every wrongdoing, every mistake, every thing you do will comeback to - the break up. No matter how much of a Don Juan you are now or will be, that image she has about you and relationship is nearly impossible to disengage. Wouldn't it be a lot funner to start on a clean slate than reconstruct from ground zero? The good qualities you found in your Ex WILL be found in another women. You mental and emotional well being is far significant than any woman out there.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
+1, especially the part I highlighted. I know this from my own, and others' experiences. if you don't mind being her "*****", then go for it. But she has most certainly talked to other chicks about this, and you will pay, forever.VladPatton said:Don't do it, man. You're going to give her complete power in the relationship. Come to grips with the loss. Your first, basic, initial, primal, natural instinct to end the relationship when you did was correct. No need to second guess it now. That's just my opinion, I hope you do what is ultimately in your best interest. Good luck and keep us posted.