"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Advice Needed...Dont flame.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
I do have other options with girls right now though.Driggs said:I think you should. If she at the very least, if NOTHING else is non flaky, that makes her head and tail better than most of these day old croissants... They are some flaky Shiite.
BeDJ
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You know how to prevent that from happening.Crissco said:What i dont want is the coming crashing down if we hypothetically speaking get back together, things are great for a bit, then boom, sh*t hits the fan.
It's not "Hey, I know what went wrong and I know how to fix it!" There is already an imaged burned into her memory about the relationship and you. Every wrongdoing, every mistake, every thing you do will comeback to - the break up. No matter how much of a Don Juan you are now or will be, that image she has about you and relationship is nearly impossible to disengage. Wouldn't it be a lot funner to start on a clean slate than reconstruct from ground zero? The good qualities you found in your Ex WILL be found in another women. You mental and emotional well being is far significant than any woman out there.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
Oh yeah I know that one. I always tell my friends, its easier to just find a new woman they try to fix the old one. Gotta take my own advice here. Since it applys to this too.BeDJ said:You know how to prevent that from happening.
It's not "Hey, I know what went wrong and I know how to fix it!" There is already an imaged burned into her memory about the relationship and you. Every wrongdoing, every mistake, every thing you do will comeback to - the break up. No matter how much of a Don Juan you are now or will be, that image she has about you and relationship is nearly impossible to disengage. Wouldn't it be a lot funner to start on a clean slate than reconstruct from ground zero? The good qualities you found in your Ex WILL be found in another women. You mental and emotional well being is far significant than any woman out there.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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+1, especially the part I highlighted. I know this from my own, and others' experiences. if you don't mind being her "*****", then go for it. But she has most certainly talked to other chicks about this, and you will pay, forever.VladPatton said:Don't do it, man. You're going to give her complete power in the relationship. Come to grips with the loss. Your first, basic, initial, primal, natural instinct to end the relationship when you did was correct. No need to second guess it now. That's just my opinion, I hope you do what is ultimately in your best interest. Good luck and keep us posted.
Spin some friggin' plates, that's one thing to learn here, and not forget. There's a time for honesty, a time for second chances (but not many), and a time to spin the platters. Spin 'em.