"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Advice/Help Second Date

tennisbuck12

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Morning,

I took this lady out on Monday and the date ended with a kiss and thats it.

I texted her last night to see if she wants to do something the next day or that night but she said she had plans. Asked her maybe some other time and she responded Sounds good:)

Nothing has been setup but I have noticed texts have become shorter and its taking her longer to respond.

Should I stop communication or wait? Any help right now I would be helpful. She's a dime piece.

She did mention she didn't feel well yesterday, should i text her and see how she feels?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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piranha45

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NO, don't get emotional with her. Be as an indifferent rock, that has other options and no particular preference toward her. She's probably quite used to men yielding and supplicating to her on account of her physical attractiveness, and if you jump on that bandwagon you'll make yourself out to be boring and weak... just like all the others.

You should stop communication and be patient and methodical. Your mindset needs to be that she's just one of many prospects you have.

And if you lose her anyway, then that's something you need to accept. By withdrawing your attention from her, you're doing all you can to gain her interest.
 

tennisbuck12

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Thanks. Thats what I was thinking. I'm 34 and shes 40.

I can always go younger
 

tennisbuck12

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Also

Thanks. Thats what I was thinking. I'm 34 and shes 40.

I can always go younger
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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tennisbuck12

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Lol. Have lots of options but I have a thing for older women. Always have.

She is a pro at dating. One thing that did turn me off
 
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