"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Advice: don't be a frustrated a$$hole, like me

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So yea i mentioned her before to ya'll... we flirted a little bit last semester, thought we had some chemistry. thought she was a cool person cute, etc. She never said "no" to hanging out with me, seemed to always be down for that... But i've been showing some interest in her, but havent been seeing much initiative in return from her - which made my blood boil little by little as days/weeks went on. Tonighti came from this frat that im rushing for, a little buzzed, tired, knowing that I gotta wake up early tomorrow = not in the best mood.

I see her name online, say "hey" "how your doing" she doesnt even respond. Then logs off. I fvcken SNAPPED! Left her a message like "ur ignoring me like this now? wat you think your too fvckin good for me huh?? no, fvck that - never let my eyes see you again!". I went on a friken rampage like a half hour ago, in my dorm in college. Including punching walls, throwing chairs, cups, etc., even told a neighbor if u got any drugs give me some now or ill probably end up killing somebody i swear...

And now I relaxed, had a cigarette, and thought to myself - what the hell did this little girl do to deserve such a reaction from me? Absolutely nothing bad.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You got problems kid!! You are a perfect Capt'N Sav-A_Ho who will die a miserable death!!
 

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HandyAndy said:
lol, you lost your cool cuz she didnt respond to you??? Get a life dude, your stressing over one girl..
chill the fuk out


yo, you need to control your emotions, i hope you realize that. start thinking about that. showing no emotions is better than showing any emotions in this world.

next time, when you get mad. KEEP it to yourself, smoke another cig, chill and relax. showing anger to any female doesnt benefit at all.

wish you the best of luck
 

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So now i feel like a retard.. surprise surprise

Why do i act/feel the way I do? They say Your first few years in life as a baby impact you greatly forever. i lived with grandparents, and for my grandma especially, I was her life, and her reason to live - she loved more than anything, like I was her little angel. Fast foreward 15-20 years: I STILL want, and expect to be accepted, and loved. I subconsciously think "HOW DARE somebody not love me?!", "wat kind of a terrible person would not wanna give me what I want?"
-I need to get rid of this programming, now that its hurt me before.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Thanks to ya'll who are reading this. Especially Dan said it right. I CANNOT stand games, and being played by ANYBODY - im not a fvcken yo-yo.
 

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I learned alot from this site, and some of player supreme's podcasts. They really made sense to me even though I didn't listen to that many. But they really stick out in my mind. What I say in my other posts - its nothing man, its just a combination of what ive learned from others, plus common sense, plus learning lessons from life.
 
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DJVladdy said:
So now i feel like a retard.. surprise surprise

Why do i act/feel the way I do? They say Your first few years in life as a baby impact you greatly forever. i lived with grandparents, and for my grandma especially, I was her life, and her reason to live - she loved more than anything, like I was her little angel. Fast foreward 15-20 years: I STILL want, and expect to be accepted, and loved. I subconsciously think "HOW DARE somebody not love me?!", "wat kind of a terrible person would not wanna give me what I want?"
-I need to get rid of this programming, now that its hurt me before.
You have to give people reason to love you!! Give me the reasons of why you are so lovable!!! Selfish people are the worst people!!! It is not about you!!!! It is about humanity!!!! Get over it now or die!!!!!
 

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No LMS, the reason WHY I reacted in that manner is.........
cuz im the opposite of a fvcken capatian save a ho.
That's a chump who will stick around a dumb bytch who dissed his sorry ass in the past, and pretend to be her friend in order for a chance to get laid... putting up with her bull****, doing her favors, listening to the stupid wr0re bytch about how men are evil........
a.k.a trying to save a ho.

No, **** that! im a far as it gets from some1 like that.
 

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DJVladdy said:
So yea i mentioned her before to ya'll... we flirted a little bit last semester, thought we had some chemistry. thought she was a cool person cute, etc. She never said "no" to hanging out with me, seemed to always be down for that... But i've been showing some interest in her, but havent been seeing much initiative in return from her - which made my blood boil little by little as days/weeks went on.

Dude, as soon as she doesn't return the interest, you have to back off immediately. If you were a salesman and a customer came to buy a car, they showed a little interest and the beginning but then decided to think about for a little while, would you pick up the phone and say "listen, you better show some damn interest in this car or I'm going to do the unthinkable to you?"

I see her name online, say "hey" "how your doing" she doesnt even respond. Then logs off. I fvcken SNAPPED! Left her a message like "ur ignoring me like this now? wat you think your too fvckin good for me huh?? no, fvck that - never let my eyes see you again!".

What were you expecting her to say? "I'm in love you, come over and I'll let you inside my pants as soon as you walk in the door" ? "You make me so horny I'm going to explode?" You know it doesn't work that way and everyone else here does. Maybe she didn't respond because was tired and had a test the next day, maybe it her roomate online and not her, maybe her msn logs off when there is inactivity for 5 min, or maybe, just maybe, she saw your message and thought she would call you the next instead of chatting on msn.

I went on a friken rampage like a half hour ago, in my dorm in college. Including punching walls, throwing chairs, cups, etc., even told a neighbor if u got any drugs give me some now or ill probably end up killing somebody i swear...

I'm scared to found out what you would do if she told you she has a boyfriend that she lets to she her naked and inside her. Hope they have a good security system in place at your U

And now I relaxed, had a cigarette, and thought to myself - what the hell did this little girl do to deserve such a reaction from me? Absolutely nothing bad.
Yes, she did nothing bad. I'm just curious what her response is going to be.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DJVladdy said:
No LMS, the reason WHY I reacted in that manner is.........
cuz im the opposite of a fvcken capatian save a ho.
That's a chump who will stick around a dumb bytch who dissed his sorry ass in the past, and pretend to be her friend in order for a chance to get laid... putting up with her bull****, doing her favors, listening to the stupid wr0re bytch about how men are evil........
a.k.a trying to save a ho.

No, **** that! im a far as it gets from some1 like that.
No, what you describe is a man who is supplicating to a female to gain her favor, in hopes that she may, one day, be so satisfied with his gratitude that she will reward him with her affection - not for him being a man but because he acted out of his nature and protected and served that which should not be protected nor served!! :rolleyes:

You are out of control kid - because you seek that which is unworthy - know this!!!
 

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Im in Boston, and yea Ill prolly meet up with Skip soon - we talk online sometimes.

LMS: I'm not politically correct. I have little patience for dumbasses. I dont pull a fake American smile just cuz "its the polite thing to do". I call a square a square and circle a circle, and ive hurt people because of that, including my loved ones. I say what's on my mind.

Now for the "lovable" part. Bro, i know you dont know me, but im one of those rare people that if your on good terms with me, and you call me at 3 o clock at night saying you are in trouble or need my help, Ill be there for you immediately, no questions asked. I like to have fun and socialize, and I'm a people's person. I've never been unfair, or EVER fvcked any1 over in my life. I don't backstab people, and if people will backstab me, they will pay for it, no doubt about that.
So basically, if you are good to me, I'll be twice as good to you. But, do not even have a thought in your mind to ever fvck with me.

Mike Tyson said this in his documentary: "hey you know I wanna love everybody, but first you gotta love me too."
 

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it sounds like that b1tch deserved some sort of reprimand, but yeah, you probably went a little overboard with the "never let me see you again" stuff
 
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DJVladdy said:
Im in Boston, and yea Ill prolly meet up with Skip soon - we talk online sometimes.

LMS: I'm not politically correct. I have little patience for dumbasses. I dont pull a fake American smile just cuz "its the polite thing to do". I call a square a square and circle a circle, and ive hurt people because of that, including my loved ones. I say what's on my mind.

Now for the "lovable" part. Bro, i know you dont know me, but im one of those rare people that if your on good terms with me, and you call me at 3 o clock at night saying you are in trouble or need my help, Ill be there for you immediately, no questions asked. I like to have fun and socialize, and I'm a people's person. I've never been unfair, or EVER fvcked any1 over in my life. I don't backstab people, and if people will backstab me, they will pay for it, no doubt about that.
So basically, if you are good to me, I'll be twice as good to you. But, do not even have a thought in your mind to ever fvck with me.

Mike Tyson said this in his documentary: "hey you know I wanna love everybody, but first you gotta love me too."
I don't question your manhood, I question your state of mind!!! Why place such value for a woman - she didn't respond in a millisecond and you lost control - why?

You are out of control because of a woman - you are the type of men that die sooner than they should - but who deserve to die because they are a menace to society!!! Quit going berserk over hos!!!
 
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You and Skip are always going off on girls who reject you.
Every time you do that, YOU LOSE.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hey Noob, nah i havent seen her, because this was last night lol. She knows she should probably stay away from me now anyways.

Thank you guys for your advice :)
 

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Well done for actually realising you went crazy, I think you've just won the battle.
 

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Yea I realized it ur right.
I greatly appreciate your medical consultation, nobody, but I'll pass, thank you.

And obviously I wont get a reply from her. When i cut someone out of my life, i actually mean it. Not like you.
 
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Yea I realized it ur right.
I greatly appreciate your medical consultation, nobody, but I'll pass, thank you.

And obviously I wont get a reply from her. When i cut someone out of my life, i actually mean it. Not like you.

I see, when exactly did you cut her out of your life... When punching the walls or throwing the chairs?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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