advice column: ‘I’m in my 40s and like smart, attractive men, but that pool keeps getting smaller’

[MatureDJ]

‘I’m in my 40s and like smart, attractive men, but that pool keeps getting smaller’

Tell Me About It: ‘For the last 10 years I’ve had short dating episodes with a divorced local man’

www.irishtimes.com

I’m a 49-year-old woman who seems to have learned nothing about how to have a relationship that works. I’m single and have no children.

I've always had men along the way, but just brief relationships. Men find me attractive, but as I get older there are fewer opportunities which I find sad. I constantly go for the emotionally unavailable men. I like smart, attractive men and they like me, but that pool keeps getting smaller ... For the last 10 years I’ve had short dating episodes with a local man who is divorced ... There is a really huge sexual draw with us and it never changes. He draws me in and we sleep together or date a bit. I look for more time and he gets overwhelmed and he runs.

My opinion: Men find you barely attractive enough to be FWB, and your line about "emotionally unavailable men" is delusional.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

This is what denial looks like

 

[OldComeBacker]

I couldn't even imagine banging a 49 year-old woman as a FWB. I question the level of this guy's attractiveness. Or maybe she is just exceptional for her age and just barely clears the bar for a quick NSA bang.

 

[EyeBRollin]

49? Jesus. She's twice the age of a suitable mate for an "attractive" man. Modern western women are a lost cause.

 

[bat soup]

‘I’m in my 40s and like smart, attractive men, but that pool keeps getting smaller’

Tell Me About It: ‘For the last 10 years I’ve had short dating episodes with a divorced local man’

www.irishtimes.com

My opinion: Men find you barely attractive enough to be FWB, and your line about "emotionally unavailable men" is delusional.

My answer to her would be that at that age, she should be grateful for whatever scraps of affection she can find.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I think 30 is gross. Never mind older.