"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Huffman

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Hi guys! I have ONE problem with motivation, and it is the following:

Sometimes I read Sosuave, or I have a particularly enlightening thought. And then I'm MOTIVATED! YES! I'm gonna clean up my apartment, buy that awesome dress shirt, scout out dating venues, set up stuff!

I start acting towards my goal BUT! my daily routine breaks this motivation.
I get up, go to work, go to the gym, go home, am tired. After two days my motivation is completely eradicated.

I realized that it's my HABITS which prevent me from chasing my true goals.
I'd really need some nagging wife who reminds me of my goals all the time ;)

What can I do to renew the motivation EVERY DAY?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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BadNews

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You probably won't like what I have to say. But this sounds like plain laziness to me. If you were serious about your goals you would find the time/energy to get them done.

You're used to your routine, but routines can be draining. Its time to mix things up. Set goals for each week/day, and STICK TO THEM. If you can't complete 1-2 small tasks that will advance you towards your goal each day then I hate to say it but you're screwed.

Quit being lazy and making excuses for yourself, because that's all I've read in your post. If you want to achieve some of these things, then do it. Simple as that. DO IT!

The background on my phone's lock screen is a quote that says, "Do something today that your future self will thank you for."

Do yourself a favor buddy, and start checking some **** off your list. Laziness is the worst excuse of them all.
 

Huffman

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I'm not going to argue with you, I'm lazy and I know it. But just "quit making excuses and do something" works for NOW, but I know it won't anymore in 3 days.

In fact I've done exactly that today and got a lot done. I'd like some tips on how to tricky my lazy self into doing that every day.
 

JohnChops

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Make a check list. You'll feel good when you check something done and that'll give you momentum to do whatever else you have to do. There's a good article lurking in the tips section on this exact matter. It helped me out a lot
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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RedZone

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I agree with JohnChops make a list and keep to it. Also, it might be over-whelming trying to accomplish everything at the same time. So focus on one thing at a time...maybe set aside time on a certain day of a week to achieve your goals.
 
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