"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Huffman

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Hi guys! I have ONE problem with motivation, and it is the following:

Sometimes I read Sosuave, or I have a particularly enlightening thought. And then I'm MOTIVATED! YES! I'm gonna clean up my apartment, buy that awesome dress shirt, scout out dating venues, set up stuff!

I start acting towards my goal BUT! my daily routine breaks this motivation.
I get up, go to work, go to the gym, go home, am tired. After two days my motivation is completely eradicated.

I realized that it's my HABITS which prevent me from chasing my true goals.
I'd really need some nagging wife who reminds me of my goals all the time ;)

What can I do to renew the motivation EVERY DAY?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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BadNews

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You probably won't like what I have to say. But this sounds like plain laziness to me. If you were serious about your goals you would find the time/energy to get them done.

You're used to your routine, but routines can be draining. Its time to mix things up. Set goals for each week/day, and STICK TO THEM. If you can't complete 1-2 small tasks that will advance you towards your goal each day then I hate to say it but you're screwed.

Quit being lazy and making excuses for yourself, because that's all I've read in your post. If you want to achieve some of these things, then do it. Simple as that. DO IT!

The background on my phone's lock screen is a quote that says, "Do something today that your future self will thank you for."

Do yourself a favor buddy, and start checking some **** off your list. Laziness is the worst excuse of them all.
 

Huffman

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I'm not going to argue with you, I'm lazy and I know it. But just "quit making excuses and do something" works for NOW, but I know it won't anymore in 3 days.

In fact I've done exactly that today and got a lot done. I'd like some tips on how to tricky my lazy self into doing that every day.
 

JohnChops

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Make a check list. You'll feel good when you check something done and that'll give you momentum to do whatever else you have to do. There's a good article lurking in the tips section on this exact matter. It helped me out a lot
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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RedZone

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I agree with JohnChops make a list and keep to it. Also, it might be over-whelming trying to accomplish everything at the same time. So focus on one thing at a time...maybe set aside time on a certain day of a week to achieve your goals.
 
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