"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Huffman

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Hi guys! I have ONE problem with motivation, and it is the following:

Sometimes I read Sosuave, or I have a particularly enlightening thought. And then I'm MOTIVATED! YES! I'm gonna clean up my apartment, buy that awesome dress shirt, scout out dating venues, set up stuff!

I start acting towards my goal BUT! my daily routine breaks this motivation.
I get up, go to work, go to the gym, go home, am tired. After two days my motivation is completely eradicated.

I realized that it's my HABITS which prevent me from chasing my true goals.
I'd really need some nagging wife who reminds me of my goals all the time ;)

What can I do to renew the motivation EVERY DAY?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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BadNews

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You probably won't like what I have to say. But this sounds like plain laziness to me. If you were serious about your goals you would find the time/energy to get them done.

You're used to your routine, but routines can be draining. Its time to mix things up. Set goals for each week/day, and STICK TO THEM. If you can't complete 1-2 small tasks that will advance you towards your goal each day then I hate to say it but you're screwed.

Quit being lazy and making excuses for yourself, because that's all I've read in your post. If you want to achieve some of these things, then do it. Simple as that. DO IT!

The background on my phone's lock screen is a quote that says, "Do something today that your future self will thank you for."

Do yourself a favor buddy, and start checking some **** off your list. Laziness is the worst excuse of them all.
 

Huffman

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I'm not going to argue with you, I'm lazy and I know it. But just "quit making excuses and do something" works for NOW, but I know it won't anymore in 3 days.

In fact I've done exactly that today and got a lot done. I'd like some tips on how to tricky my lazy self into doing that every day.
 

JohnChops

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Make a check list. You'll feel good when you check something done and that'll give you momentum to do whatever else you have to do. There's a good article lurking in the tips section on this exact matter. It helped me out a lot
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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RedZone

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I agree with JohnChops make a list and keep to it. Also, it might be over-whelming trying to accomplish everything at the same time. So focus on one thing at a time...maybe set aside time on a certain day of a week to achieve your goals.
 
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