"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
that's 25% of 120 lbs, or 33% of 90 lbs.... sooo ... let's put your bench at like 200 lbs.
if you kept the same ratio, your military would be 150, which would be pretty damn good... but bigger difference...
Now, here's my synopsis.
Since you complain about being "stocky," I'm betting your delts are probably stronger than your chest/tris. Your front delts can hoist the weight, and you might have a tendency to try to transfer the workload to them when you do your bench. Because of this,
A) your delts are bigger, hence your "stockiness."
B) your bench isn't as big as it should be to make the military press even out.
But, that's just my hypothesis, a little guestimation....
I think my delts are significantly more developed than my torso. Obviously, it's not something that looks ridicule when I'm without a shirt, but still I'd like to change that. Could it be because of the lats? I've never really worked them out, since I don't have any other equipment, but a couple of dumbells, a straight barbell, an EZ barbell and a bench. Should I stick more to pullovers?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
GodsGiftToFatBirds
Senior Don Juan
I've got round this problem by doing BB Hack Squats. If you don't know what these are, look under exercises on bodybuilding.com, they're basically holding the BB behind you with straight arms so that when you're squatted down, the BB is touching your ankles.
Not ideal but definately better than using a weight you can do about 50 reps with!
I don't ever go to the gym on consecutive days, even to work different body parts. The strain on your muscles and CNS is too much.
I allow a minimum of 4 days before working the same muscle group again. More often it's 5 or 6 days, and thats on a basic push/pull split.
I notice you frequently refer to joint pain and some muscle pain. I'm willing to bet money that if you go to the gym every second day, and do alternating push/pull workouts, you will eliminate those pains by giving your body a chance to repair.
Repairing is, after all, what we want our body to do - that's where muscle comes from.
I'll definately follow your advice, when the weight gets too heavy for my spine to bear, but for now, I'm still okay with it, since my legs are really weak.
Thanks for your advice, Manuva. I admit I've been wondering about the things you suggested for the last two weeks. Anyway, it seems like my body's reacting better to this kind of workout. Probably it's because I'm somewhat of a newbie and I'm not lifting big weights yet. I've been growing a lot faster since I started doing big weights, so I think it'd be best for me to keep it as it is. As my weights increase, of course I'll have to follow your advice, in order not to injure myself.
I don't know if you're right when you talk about my pains, since the only bodypart I get injured is the right wrist, which leads me to think that the most likely reason is bad form...
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Military Presses: 99lbs x 6; 99lbs x 8; 99lbs x 7; 99lbs x 6; 99lbs x 6; 99lbs x 5;
Always striving for more! Next time, I'm gonna lift 100lbs and more, I'm sure!
For those who care, I haven't been ditching squats, unfortunately the last 2 logs of them have been lost so I couldn't report them in here
Bench Press: 125lbs x 9; 125lbs x 6; 125lbs x 4; 125lbs x 1; 125lbs x 2; 125lbs x 2;
The right wrist's pain is back again since this morning... I can't really understand what it's due to... It can't be due to working out, since I hadn't been working out for 5 days... Any ideas?
[S]alvatore
Master Don Juan
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I've been told by some buddies that I look bigger, yesterday. Anyway my stats are about the same as a couple of weeks ago, just with a lower bodyfat, so that must make me look a bit bigger.
How come my waist size is still the same as a month ago, although I don't have a gut anymore and my abs are visible?!
Warboss Alex
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Because you don't necessary store (or lose) fat in your waist, or it might not be the first place you lose fat from. Everyone's different. Or you might just naturally be thick-waisted - doesn't mean you're fat.
Take measurements all over (shoulders, chest, thigh, hips etc) and compare, you'll see where you lose fat from.
What I mean is that I must have lost some fat from my waist, since I couldn't see my abs a month ago, while now they are visible 90% of the time. Anyway, my waist size hasn't gone down. It's strange because before bulking up I used to be slim-waisted (it measured 27" when my bodyfat was 8%). Now my bodyfat is around 11%, but my waist has gotten significantly bigger (it's around 32" flexed and 33-34" relaxed).
It somewhat bothers me that I used to have a V-Tape before bulking up and now I don't have it anymore
[S]alvatore
Master Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.