"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
that's 25% of 120 lbs, or 33% of 90 lbs.... sooo ... let's put your bench at like 200 lbs.
if you kept the same ratio, your military would be 150, which would be pretty damn good... but bigger difference...
Now, here's my synopsis.
Since you complain about being "stocky," I'm betting your delts are probably stronger than your chest/tris. Your front delts can hoist the weight, and you might have a tendency to try to transfer the workload to them when you do your bench. Because of this,
A) your delts are bigger, hence your "stockiness."
B) your bench isn't as big as it should be to make the military press even out.
But, that's just my hypothesis, a little guestimation....
I think my delts are significantly more developed than my torso. Obviously, it's not something that looks ridicule when I'm without a shirt, but still I'd like to change that. Could it be because of the lats? I've never really worked them out, since I don't have any other equipment, but a couple of dumbells, a straight barbell, an EZ barbell and a bench. Should I stick more to pullovers?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
GodsGiftToFatBirds
Senior Don Juan
I've got round this problem by doing BB Hack Squats. If you don't know what these are, look under exercises on bodybuilding.com, they're basically holding the BB behind you with straight arms so that when you're squatted down, the BB is touching your ankles.
Not ideal but definately better than using a weight you can do about 50 reps with!
I don't ever go to the gym on consecutive days, even to work different body parts. The strain on your muscles and CNS is too much.
I allow a minimum of 4 days before working the same muscle group again. More often it's 5 or 6 days, and thats on a basic push/pull split.
I notice you frequently refer to joint pain and some muscle pain. I'm willing to bet money that if you go to the gym every second day, and do alternating push/pull workouts, you will eliminate those pains by giving your body a chance to repair.
Repairing is, after all, what we want our body to do - that's where muscle comes from.
I'll definately follow your advice, when the weight gets too heavy for my spine to bear, but for now, I'm still okay with it, since my legs are really weak.
Thanks for your advice, Manuva. I admit I've been wondering about the things you suggested for the last two weeks. Anyway, it seems like my body's reacting better to this kind of workout. Probably it's because I'm somewhat of a newbie and I'm not lifting big weights yet. I've been growing a lot faster since I started doing big weights, so I think it'd be best for me to keep it as it is. As my weights increase, of course I'll have to follow your advice, in order not to injure myself.
I don't know if you're right when you talk about my pains, since the only bodypart I get injured is the right wrist, which leads me to think that the most likely reason is bad form...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Military Presses: 99lbs x 6; 99lbs x 8; 99lbs x 7; 99lbs x 6; 99lbs x 6; 99lbs x 5;
Always striving for more! Next time, I'm gonna lift 100lbs and more, I'm sure!
For those who care, I haven't been ditching squats, unfortunately the last 2 logs of them have been lost so I couldn't report them in here
Bench Press: 125lbs x 9; 125lbs x 6; 125lbs x 4; 125lbs x 1; 125lbs x 2; 125lbs x 2;
The right wrist's pain is back again since this morning... I can't really understand what it's due to... It can't be due to working out, since I hadn't been working out for 5 days... Any ideas?
[S]alvatore
Master Don Juan
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I've been told by some buddies that I look bigger, yesterday. Anyway my stats are about the same as a couple of weeks ago, just with a lower bodyfat, so that must make me look a bit bigger.
How come my waist size is still the same as a month ago, although I don't have a gut anymore and my abs are visible?!
Warboss Alex
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Because you don't necessary store (or lose) fat in your waist, or it might not be the first place you lose fat from. Everyone's different. Or you might just naturally be thick-waisted - doesn't mean you're fat.
Take measurements all over (shoulders, chest, thigh, hips etc) and compare, you'll see where you lose fat from.
What I mean is that I must have lost some fat from my waist, since I couldn't see my abs a month ago, while now they are visible 90% of the time. Anyway, my waist size hasn't gone down. It's strange because before bulking up I used to be slim-waisted (it measured 27" when my bodyfat was 8%). Now my bodyfat is around 11%, but my waist has gotten significantly bigger (it's around 32" flexed and 33-34" relaxed).
It somewhat bothers me that I used to have a V-Tape before bulking up and now I don't have it anymore
[S]alvatore
Master Don Juan
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.