"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
that's 25% of 120 lbs, or 33% of 90 lbs.... sooo ... let's put your bench at like 200 lbs.
if you kept the same ratio, your military would be 150, which would be pretty damn good... but bigger difference...
Now, here's my synopsis.
Since you complain about being "stocky," I'm betting your delts are probably stronger than your chest/tris. Your front delts can hoist the weight, and you might have a tendency to try to transfer the workload to them when you do your bench. Because of this,
A) your delts are bigger, hence your "stockiness."
B) your bench isn't as big as it should be to make the military press even out.
But, that's just my hypothesis, a little guestimation....
I think my delts are significantly more developed than my torso. Obviously, it's not something that looks ridicule when I'm without a shirt, but still I'd like to change that. Could it be because of the lats? I've never really worked them out, since I don't have any other equipment, but a couple of dumbells, a straight barbell, an EZ barbell and a bench. Should I stick more to pullovers?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
GodsGiftToFatBirds
Senior Don Juan
I've got round this problem by doing BB Hack Squats. If you don't know what these are, look under exercises on bodybuilding.com, they're basically holding the BB behind you with straight arms so that when you're squatted down, the BB is touching your ankles.
Not ideal but definately better than using a weight you can do about 50 reps with!
I don't ever go to the gym on consecutive days, even to work different body parts. The strain on your muscles and CNS is too much.
I allow a minimum of 4 days before working the same muscle group again. More often it's 5 or 6 days, and thats on a basic push/pull split.
I notice you frequently refer to joint pain and some muscle pain. I'm willing to bet money that if you go to the gym every second day, and do alternating push/pull workouts, you will eliminate those pains by giving your body a chance to repair.
Repairing is, after all, what we want our body to do - that's where muscle comes from.
I'll definately follow your advice, when the weight gets too heavy for my spine to bear, but for now, I'm still okay with it, since my legs are really weak.
Thanks for your advice, Manuva. I admit I've been wondering about the things you suggested for the last two weeks. Anyway, it seems like my body's reacting better to this kind of workout. Probably it's because I'm somewhat of a newbie and I'm not lifting big weights yet. I've been growing a lot faster since I started doing big weights, so I think it'd be best for me to keep it as it is. As my weights increase, of course I'll have to follow your advice, in order not to injure myself.
I don't know if you're right when you talk about my pains, since the only bodypart I get injured is the right wrist, which leads me to think that the most likely reason is bad form...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Military Presses: 99lbs x 6; 99lbs x 8; 99lbs x 7; 99lbs x 6; 99lbs x 6; 99lbs x 5;
Always striving for more! Next time, I'm gonna lift 100lbs and more, I'm sure!
For those who care, I haven't been ditching squats, unfortunately the last 2 logs of them have been lost so I couldn't report them in here
Bench Press: 125lbs x 9; 125lbs x 6; 125lbs x 4; 125lbs x 1; 125lbs x 2; 125lbs x 2;
The right wrist's pain is back again since this morning... I can't really understand what it's due to... It can't be due to working out, since I hadn't been working out for 5 days... Any ideas?
[S]alvatore
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I've been told by some buddies that I look bigger, yesterday. Anyway my stats are about the same as a couple of weeks ago, just with a lower bodyfat, so that must make me look a bit bigger.
How come my waist size is still the same as a month ago, although I don't have a gut anymore and my abs are visible?!
Warboss Alex
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Because you don't necessary store (or lose) fat in your waist, or it might not be the first place you lose fat from. Everyone's different. Or you might just naturally be thick-waisted - doesn't mean you're fat.
Take measurements all over (shoulders, chest, thigh, hips etc) and compare, you'll see where you lose fat from.
What I mean is that I must have lost some fat from my waist, since I couldn't see my abs a month ago, while now they are visible 90% of the time. Anyway, my waist size hasn't gone down. It's strange because before bulking up I used to be slim-waisted (it measured 27" when my bodyfat was 8%). Now my bodyfat is around 11%, but my waist has gotten significantly bigger (it's around 32" flexed and 33-34" relaxed).
It somewhat bothers me that I used to have a V-Tape before bulking up and now I don't have it anymore
[S]alvatore
Master Don Juan
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.