"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Admitting you've been acting like a fool

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She answered 10 hours later in the middle of the night with ‘sorry I was out, goodnight’. I’m a light sleeper so I saw it 15 minutes after she texted it, answered with a simple goodnight.

What do I do now? Do I reach out or do I wait till she does?

Something is going on, either she’s mad and indeed playing my game (which wasn’t a game btw) or it’s indeed over (which I wouldn’t get all of a sudden).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Fvcking hell, why did I even keep trying? She suddenly became very unresponsive, taking hours to respond or not respond at all, where before it only took minutes.

If she can't even handle the fact that because of a death in the family, I acted quiet and different for a week, I do realize she must be gone.
It's gonna hurt, I'm not gonna lie about that, I had a lot of fun with her.
 

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Thought she was mad, so just explained I didn’t text her cause I was busy with family and that I wasn’t myself, so that I didn’t want to bother her.
do you think "Misdemeanour Marcus" explains himself?
 

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Unless you enjoy being on the receiving end of drama, don't share yours with women. You should be the iceberg in the tropical storm. Save the passion for horizontal time. Never look to women for comfort. It's an extremely bad habit to fall into. But, hey, everybody fuucks up sometimes. Just move forward like it never happened. Don't unload on her; just tell her that everything is going to be fine.
That’s the point, I didn’t look for comfort with her. I dealt with it myself, this meant I was more quiet and ‘cold’ as usual, something she clearly had trouble with.

But she changed since then, some other guy probably, fvcking b!tches. Something happens in your life and they can’t even hold on for a week, even when it’s something serious.
 

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She just texted this

"I've been quiet/distant on purpose, I was a bit mad, but can we just act normal again now?"

Uhm wtf, I do admit I acted weird on the day the death occured, but to use this event to act like that? This is a huge red flag no? Or probably that other guy is not acting like she wants.

What do I respond? Should I respond at all? Problem is I still have to work with her from time to time.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You've lost your frame.
It's not something you can get back easy with women either.
Frame is like glass, once it breaks it is ruined forever.
 

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Just go NC then?

Really not feeling well, she’s a solid 9. And she just texted that her grandfather is not doing well, that that the reason is why she’s so quiet/distant. Tbh I don’t believe it.
 
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